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By yankeehack (Sun Sep 26, 2021 at 09:31:30 PM EST) (all tags)
It's been a crazy week.

Before this past week, if you had asked what I was up to, I would have I was super busy with work.

Well...this past week was really something else. I can't go into too much detail, but there were some industry headlines and orange site links to us because a third party found a thing in our service. The big thing had been killed upon the initial report to us a few months ago, but apparently another way more narrower thing could have happened if A,B,C,D,E were all true.

Anyway, the news went out last Sunday US time / early Monday Australasia time, and it took us time to investigate and report. By mid-week we had an initial public report and a recommended patch.

I don't think this event will be an extinction level event for the org, but it has certainly shown where the org needs to change.

Ironically the whole thing seems to have driven more traffic to us, so that's a plus.

Anyway, I'm still trying to process what happened and to assess risk.


In other news, I joined this adventuring club (they have events scheduled nearly every day of the week all around the Bay) and went to my first event last night. It was supposed to be a dating like event at a bowling alley in SF, but since most of the members went to another event on the beach, our event was kept small. (I would have considered the beach thing, but after this past week I honestly did not want to freeze my ass off.) Even though the attendance was lopsided, the guys were under 30 and the women were older. The founder of the group was there and I even got to talk with him for a bit. I even met another empty nester mom! We ended up talking, bowling, playing pool, playing jenga, doing shots, going to Taco Bell. The night out was fun and I needed it. I'm thinking about hiking across the Golden Gate Bridge next weekend with the group.


I returned home last night after a $70 Lyft ride, and then had a very rough few hours. My anxiety goes up to 11 when I'm stressed and hungover. Mostly paced my place, tried drinking water. (Taco Bell did not have any soda due to supply issues, only pink lemonade.) Didn't get much sleep except for a few stretches here and there. And I have not done shots in a bar since...way way before Covid.

Anyway, I checked my phone at 6:30am for some reason and I have a Twitter DM. So I check the DM, and nine times out of ten, it's spam from some rando. Well...not this time. Remember that guy I was seeing at the beginning of the summer who was part of Internet history? Well, there was a long, hysterical DM from a woman who said that she had dated that guy about the same time I did. Oh.

I ended up having like a two hour long DM session with her, as she was trying to piece together the timeline and trying to make peace with it. Basically I don't feel any different about him or about how I ended it -- I knew something was up with him and wasn't going to stay around for whatever it was. He was on a break away from her when he started seeing me, and he definitely left out some very important knowledge and context of their relationship. Like how he immediately started dating after breaking up with her (he said it ended last December), and how a few weeks later, he was traveling with her to Europe, etc. I knew about the trip, he promised to do something with me after he returned but it felt funny that he's traveling in Europe by himself (he wasn't) and the fact he went dark during it. She knew about me when they got back together, but apparently he told her that we broke up and were staying friends. So when she discovered my breakup text to him, she saw it and started having questions.

Some of her claims are kinda out there and I wasn't in the mood to correct her narrative completely. Nevertheless, she isn't merely scorned, she's now in her 40s and was hoping to have a kid with him, so she is red-hot angry. Last I heard, she is trying to track down other women he allegedly dated when she was with him, but apparently most of those were just one-off dates.

So anyway!

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What is it with some of these guys? by wiredog (4.00 / 1) #1 Mon Sep 27, 2021 at 05:11:21 AM EST
" in her 40s and was hoping to have a kid with him, "

Several years ago a friend of mine in her late 30's was dating a guy, a college professor, and he was The One. They were engaged, getting ready to set a date, talking about children. My friend loves kids, has a bunch of nieces and nephews, and wanted a family of her own. Then he started getting squirrely about setting the actual date. Then his girlfriend, a college student, called her. Then she and his girlfriend found out about his wife and kids. Yeah. He was married, and had a fiancée, and had a girl on the side.

My friend is half Italian, half Polish, and "red-hot angry" is a pretty good description of her reaction.

She later did find a great guy and get married, but by that time it was too late to have children.

Earth First!
(We can strip mine the rest later.)

The only by yankeehack (2.00 / 0) #2 Tue Sep 28, 2021 at 06:54:21 PM EST
defense of the grown man in question is that he really, really, really has no concept on how the world works.

He also stated on his dating profile he did not want kids and told me he had a vasectomy*, so I have no clue. (Which, based on his previous marriage, makes sense.)

On the other hand, the chick in question seems to be manipulative.

So, who knows? He could have really said those things. Maybe it's was all in her head, etc. I feel like there's probably truth in between the two.
"...she dares to indulge in the secret sport. You can't be a MILF with the F, at least in part because the M is predicated upon it."-CBB

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