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By Orion Blastar (Thu Nov 21, 2019 at 02:01:32 AM EST) (all tags)
My mother is getting old, I take care of her at my house with my wife and son taking care of her as well. My two brothers live far enough away they cannot visit every day. Can't get a phone call most of the time from them. My only contact is Facebook and my mother does not use Facebook.

My youngest brother told me he would not be at mom's funeral when she finally dies. Said she never called him when he had sore ribs and etc.

Mom did try and call but he never answered the phone. She left voice mail and he never returned the call.

In 2016 I was in a mental hospital around Easter time, middle brother called me at the hospital and youngest brother did not. He claimed nobody called him or left voicemail. I could not send a Facebook message because I was in a psyche ward that was locked down for suicide patents.

I tried to tell him that our mom is on her last few years and that he would regret it not talking to her. He said he would not be at her funeral and I'd have to be pall bearer because he won't be there to do it.

He left the Facebook chat and I think he unfriended me. I think mom is going to cut him out of her will. He already won't speak to his daughter as she got married and had two babies. Something about child support after 18 to go to college broke him.

I don't know what to do or say anymore. I think I tried to fix things and made them worse.

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OK it is our father's birthday by Orion Blastar (2.00 / 0) #1 Thu Nov 21, 2019 at 09:48:01 PM EST
and he's been dead since 2010. So I guess that factors in with it.

Ever had a family break up because parents got old or died? I am sure it is just not just me?

"I drank what?" - Socrates after drinking the Conium
Not just you by miserere (4.00 / 1) #2 Fri Nov 22, 2019 at 09:26:39 AM EST
Two of my three brothers still speak occasionally, but neither of them talk to the third brother (nor him to them). I didn’t realize until after my mom died how much work she did keeping us all connected as we grew up and got out of the house. It’s sad, and I did try to play that role of keeping people together for a while. But you know what? They’re grown-ups. They get to choose how to spend their lives, and live with whatever regrets they might have in the future.

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Mom helped him a lot by Orion Blastar (4.00 / 1) #3 Sat Nov 23, 2019 at 12:11:55 AM EST
because he was the baby of the family and they let him get away with a lot of things.

I still speak to my middle brother over Facebook.

It is like I lost a friend, and I have lost a lot of friends when they moved away for college or a job. Then we never speak again.

"I drank what?" - Socrates after drinking the Conium
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