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By yankeehack (Sat Dec 05, 2015 at 03:53:55 PM EST) (all tags)
Last weekend I drank a little wine and got annoyed at the loud next door neighbors I could hear in my bedroom. So I drunkenly downloaded all three Adele albums and played them on repeat until late at night.

The neighbors (it's the ever annoying one and his flavor of the month) have been mysteriously quiet ever since.

Let's start with the good...

LO got into her first choice southern research university. So did 9 other kids at her high school, which lead to a few days of "Holy shit, was the online portal status a mistake?" but she got the official letter a few days ago. We'll take it.

LO has calmed down A LOT and is more at peace. She has been getting shit done. I'll take this too.

LO broke up with the friend who turned into a boyfriend. Hallelujah. The breakup officially occurred over Thanksgiving because he was getting weasily about other girls. LO also did not bring him around when he was in town for Thanksgiving, so I figured something was up. I was also laying it a bit thick about not being happy about him.

Me: "See, I told you that you shouldn't date boys with low self esteem who would help you to lie."
LO: "..."

LO's new crush is the ex-boarding school roommate of her BFFs brother - but kid seems pretty down to earth and the BFFs family knows him pretty well. Kid is in a gap year between transferring college because of NCAA eligibilty requirements. He's playing in a junior hockey league to pass the time and living at home in Jersey. Anything better than weasily friend.


With the two college acceptances under her belt, LO is vascillating between applying to more schools. She missed the December 1 deadlines for the out-of-state state universities. And it seems like the application for the one state college she did apply to early (I'm looking at you UMass Amherst) is utterly, completely lost in their system. She might apply to the two Boston schools she has a shot at (BU & BC) on a regular schedule, but has ruled out Northeastern apparently.

LO didn't get any merit money off the bat from dream school (She was qualified to get in, but didn't exceed their typical student demographics, so not surprised). I sent an email to the person who should be her financial aid officer to talk about the dependency override. As it turns out, what we are really asking for is that the contribution from the non-custodial parent to be overridden. So I'm in an email thread (being the ever annoying clueless Mom purposefully) asking what kind of paperwork they need. So, as it turns out, we might not need as much documentation. Hopefully. Next week I am going to get in contact with my old attorney to update her with the good news and see if she can help with a statement of support too.

My ex-LEO father is worried about sending LO to dream school since there's been more than a few bad headlines about the crime in that town. (We didn't mention the acceptance during Thanksgiving.) It seems after this story that there's more attention on the ongoing problems. Not only because it was a university student involved. There's still a shitload of crime, but there is crime in other cities too.


Thanksgiving was difficult on a few levels. My Mom had round 1 of the outpatient surgery for her skin cancer, and both her and my Dad were stressed and worried about it. My Dad took me aside to tell me, "Did the guy get it all? He was so cavalier when I talked to him. And he didn't even have clear pictures of her bumps!"

My Dad has to help my Mom with the bandages and he is deeply uncomfortable about that. At one point my Mom was talking about her other issues (she is losing her teeth because of bone loss accelerated by the chemo she had a decade ago) and my Dad just looked up and said "It's like she is disappearing on us."


I had a really great phone screen interview with a pre-IPO software company for a telecommute manager position this week. The recruiter was pretty excited, and knew of one of my previous employers because she is from this area. They could meet the lower end of my requested salary and want to know if I'm getting other offers. Only bad part is that she warned the process is going to be slow because of the holidays (and also I'm sure she is slammed because of their hiring binge). I haven't heard anything since.

In other recruiter news, I got blown off by a recruiter at $HugeConsultingFirm. I wanted to talk to her not only about the position, but more about the company. On the other hand, I can totally use this experience for $careerreviewsitethathassalaryinfo.

In terms of the job hunt, indeed dot com has been the most useful. I paid for a month of theladders, and it's given me leads into who is hiring but nothing else.


About the job currently. Annoying co-worker had it out with founder last week, echoing what I had said. Founder has ignored everything we requested and is instead emailing us the contracts that have gotten signed. He's literally pretending that we're not mad at him. And he's going to hire his other kids this holiday season to "help" us (this isn't the help we requested). And we're only scratching the surface of customer required customization.

No check yet for the month so far. This past week, I decided to start working part time and stopped answering emails on nights/weekends, as the founder insisted that is all that was required. Founder ended up getting antsy when I didn't deliver a report quick enough. Oh well dude. The only reason why I am even talking to him still is the hope for a check. When I do get a new position, all I'm going to do is write the team a quick note telling them I'm suspending my participation immediately.

So it looks like this stasis is going to last until after the holidays, which sucks on a lot of levels. I haven't been stressed like this in a long time. It was embarrassing during Thanksgiving when my Dad gave me cash telling me that I might need it.

I am trying to apply to jobs on a daily basis. Keep on going at it, which is all I can do. Change caused by someone else's issues is hard.

Currently listening to my circa 2000 music collection, to remind myself what it was like then.

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Do you have any QA chops? by dev trash (4.00 / 1) #1 Sat Dec 05, 2015 at 10:35:46 PM EST
I may know of a position

I do by yankeehack (2.00 / 0) #5 Sun Dec 06, 2015 at 10:43:38 AM EST
a lot of manual QA tied to product management like duties because I'm the dummy who has to talk to our "customers" and make sure they are happy.

I'm looking for telecommute positions if possible.
"...she dares to indulge in the secret sport. You can't be a MILF with the F, at least in part because the M is predicated upon it."-CBB

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I'll talk to people tomorrow by dev trash (2.00 / 0) #8 Sun Dec 06, 2015 at 09:25:32 PM EST

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Shout out to Mamahack. by ammoniacal (4.00 / 1) #2 Sun Dec 06, 2015 at 03:41:33 AM EST
Here's hoping she has a 100% successful recovery. Hugs!!

"To this day that was the most bullshit caesar salad I have every experienced..." - triggerfinger

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nm, prob better not tell that one... by the mariner (2.00 / 0) #4 Sun Dec 06, 2015 at 07:45:11 AM EST

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Heh, go for it. /nt by yankeehack (2.00 / 0) #6 Sun Dec 06, 2015 at 10:56:42 AM EST

"...she dares to indulge in the secret sport. You can't be a MILF with the F, at least in part because the M is predicated upon it."-CBB
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"ex-LEO" by Oberon (4.00 / 3) #7 Sun Dec 06, 2015 at 04:39:24 PM EST
That abbreviation is not often used here, though I know what it means -- on first reading I thought it was a very weird way to say your Dad had been on the International Space Station (in Low Earth Orbit).

How now, mad spirit?
It doesn't? by anonimouse (4.00 / 1) #9 Mon Dec 07, 2015 at 05:25:05 AM EST

Girls come and go but a mortgage is for 25 years -- JtL
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slow because of the holidays by wiredog (4.00 / 1) #10 Mon Dec 07, 2015 at 07:23:34 AM EST
Same here, and also because $FriendWhoOwnsCompany is travelling for business a lot.

Hope to be in new job sometime next month.

Earth First!
(We can strip mine the rest later.)

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