In Jersey Boy's absence, LO has some other boys to hang out with, but her one has been someone who I will call Big Lug. The Big Lug is the older brother of one of her girlfriends. He's a tall, three sport kid, has some serious facial hair and a deeeep voice. He's also perpetually late.

Now I've known about Big Lug for a few weeks and was sort of encouraging it at first because I did not like how Jersey Boy was really trying to control her.

As of right now, Big Lug and LO are not boyfriend and girlfriend as LO doesn't want to commit to him. She does, however, hang out with him and he can drive. She has admitted to me that they have "made out."

The problem with Big Lug is that he lives in town and his folks are divorced, living literally a few blocks away from each other. I had Big Lug's little sister in the car with me and LO not too long ago and there was some good natured ribbing about the budding relationship. Big Lug's little sister then said something to the effect of "Oh God, I hope my parents don't get to know about this, they'll cause trouble." Little sis then proceeds to tell a story about how their Mom blows things out of proportion and causes drama. She is also styling herself as a Life Coach. To make this story even juicier, I had heard a similar story from Big Lug's uncle, who I had once gone out on a date with when we first moved up here. (Small world, huh?) Also, while I am not the most active of sport moms, I know pretty much all the moms in LO's rowing cohort, except for Big Lug's mom. She's like never ever there.

Basically, I can't hope that the Mom would act rationally if/when she is needed. Apparently the Mom knows of the relationship, is suspicious of LO and has given Big Lug a hard time, especially after one night he brought LO home late and was driving after curfew. (I was waiting for LO on the porch that night. As far as I am concerned, LO caused that.)

Now, the thing is, the kids hang out, as kids do. They've hung out at the park, they hang out at either the Mom's or the Dad's place...I don't know who is home, either. Like, as in, she went to get something to eat with her friends afters chool and then went over to the boy's Mom's house today. That's ok, as long as the Mom is home, but I am not sure.

I hate the thought of starting drama with these parents, I don't want to and I would rather the kids would tell me what is up rather than go hiding about where they are, which is what I fear the most. LO mostly tells me what she does, but not always...most notably with this kid. I hate having to feel like I have to track LO down, especially as she'll be getting her driver's license in mere months. I know LO wants the freedom, but...jeez.

Ideas?