Another Saturday Night

 

My girlfriend, RedLeader, and I spent four days doing whatever the fuck we wanted while our children were cared for by husbands (ex- in her case). We didn't really have lots of money to spend, at all, so although my father initially felt that we were going away to have a coke filled weekend (where does he get these ideas??) what we really did was much tamer by all accounts, though it was a whole bunch of fun.

 

On Saturday I took RL to the big city of Toronto. She's a rural girl and although she has taken trips into the city through childhood with school trips and such she hasn't really spent any adult time there doing adult type things; you know, like snorting coke off of prostitutes butts and whatnot. I could not let such a gap in experience exist so off we went in my car to into the depths of the skyscrapers. One of the places I took her was to a place called Roacherama. Guess what you buy there?

 

 I had told RL all about how one could sit at the back of the establishment where they have a little outdoor patio area and be served yummy smoothies while smoking a joint. She didn't believe me. While sitting in the patio area, with our smoothies, surrounded by people smoking she asked, couldn't we be arrested? The answer is of course technically yes; but we won't be. Roacherama has been around for years and it is now not the only of it's kind in Kensington Market (the cool downtown hotspot in the middle of Chinatown we were in, where one can buy some freshly baked bread, seriously amazing cheeses or buy some really pretty dresses from India or Paraguay). So, that was fun, she was very cute. I love getting to show people new things.

 

I had been texting with Miss Lake upon our arrival into the city and she said they were home so RL and I strong armed our way into their evening. I think ni was slightly put out when we first arrived, as they had been watching some sort of Swedish film, and Spacejack was there too (remember that guy? He, is like, SO nice) so probably I was totally annoying. But you know, hey, that's the way it goes sometimes. I was trying to show RL a good time.  This time I had remember the bottle of wine I bought for them and Miss Lake helped cajole the boys into a glass of a wine and a sit outside in the beautiful garden area before being allowed back at the movie. 

 

The thing was, one glass turned into two and then two lovely vagrant-type friends of ni and Miss Lake's neighbour arrived and decided to wait for said neighbour. They brought a guitar wouldn't you know? Their neighbour came home eventually too and then there was the singing and the wine. This must have led ni to his sudden bright idea (and decision to once again take back control of the night!) to Korean Karaoke! Of course Miss Lake and I were already on board (d-uh!) and RL, well, she was along for the ride. This activity was also something my girlfriend RedLeader had ever done; downtown in little Korea, your own room, singing to each other while watching strange videos of children playing or Laotian dancing and pretty much acting like total fools. It's really a riot. Miss Lake and I both delighted ourselves and possibly others by reinventing songs we didn't know as well as singing songs we did know. Elton has some song about pigeons… seriously, "fly away pigeon" or something… wow… I wonder what that song really sounds like. I'll have to youtube that after I write this.

Spacejack was just so great. I miss that guy. I was really happy to see him. He is so nice, and really sharp too, which I had sort of forgotten. I miss the get togethers that used to happen more frequently with Husi friends in TO. I also really love Spacejack's art (I look at one of his pieces everyday in my office) and miss getting to see it for free when he posted on Husi. Spacejack sang, I just loved that, cause he's not a really loud guy or anything and you might not expect him to. 

Also, can I just stop here to say how much I love ni and Miss Lake. Those guys are just so great, I love having them as friends. They are crazy, and smart and delightful and fun. Seriously two of my favourite people ever.

 

 

Weekend Continues

 

So, another thing I did with my girlfriend on our days between driving hither and fro was to go stay at my ex-boyfriend's family cottage on Grape Island. My ex, let us call him Chef, is a super nice guy whom I have been friends with since we broke up when I was around 24. His cottage is so nice and was once a bed and breakfast so it has all these little cabins on it where everyone sleeps and then the main cabin where the kitchen and living room are. Last year Chef built his own cabin out of a boat house, it's so super nice. He's an amazing carpenter. In fact, though he wears his little silver ring on his pinky and worked for ten years in the industry (Mech Eng) he now makes his money doing renovations for people. Anyhoo, RL and I bummed around his families' cottage, with him tending to us hand and foot, as is his way, and wow, can he cook. It was awesome and tasty.

Our male friend Bulldog (who is *secretly* in love with RL) had trouble believing when RL said that CBB knew what was going on, even after she assured him CBB was friends with Chef and knew all about us being there and there was nothing sordid going on. It's a little bit hilarious how NOT romantic our time was compared to some peoples ideas, though there was a hot tub, and we were in bathing suits at least some of the time.
Chef introduced us to this really cool game Blockus which we played for hours, after we had puzzled. I had really wanted RL to meet Chef to see how nice guys are. She was duly impressed. She couldn't believe how he cooked for us, and served us and was a complete gentleman the whole time. It's a theme with my exes, I only like guys who are genuinely nice. I wouldn't be with my husband if he weren't the way he is, but it doesn't mean that I am not totally thankful that he is the way he is, so I can be the way that I am.