I have to tell you that doctors think it is a problem.

Also, last time I was asked your poll question, the woman asking almost certainly had an ulterior motive. As the only other person there was already betrothed, how should I have answered? And for bonus points, how could I  make the issue come up again?

As for the poops, it's probably not as often as you think. You're much more likely to notice when they're in the can than when they aren't.

the internet: amplifier of stupidity -- discordia

We had been living together for a year, almost exactly.

The marriage thing might have happened sooner or later, modulo (a) her being married to somebody else at the time (he was out of the country the whole time; I've never met him)(b) her becoming pregnant. Who knows what the scenario would have been without those complications.

I had been engaged when I was 21, to a woman I had known for 5 months or so. That was a case where we both instantly "knew".  Or so I thought. I went overseas in the Peace Corps, while I was gone she ditched me for Jane, her girlfriend. They were a couple for the next 17 years or so. Ended badly, alas.

What kind of fool thinks you can go away for 2 years and everything will stay the same between you? Well, me. At least, the younger me.

Oh well, things work out, I guess.  But that was quite a kick in the teeth at the time.

She has effectively checked out. She's an un-person of her own making. So it falls to me.--ad hoc (in the hole)

"And this ... is a piece of Synergy." --Kellnerin

2nd marriage:  dated 1 year, lived together 6 months, happiest i've ever been in my life.  would have gotten married sooner, but had to wait for divorce to finalize.

there is no tried and true method for when to get married.  love is great, but love doesn't mean you should marry somebody.  do you share similar attitudes on finances?  whether or not to ahve kids?  how to you deal with arguments?  is one person insanely sloppy and the other a neat freak?  the little things will make the marriage work, not necessarily "being in love." 

also, do you have ANY misgivings about marrying this person WHATSOEVER???/  ANY doubt?  because if you have any doubt, you need to listen to what your gut is telling you.  i had doubts in the months leading up to my first marriage.  i dropped some hints with people about what i was feeling and every single one of them told me i just needed to get married and everything would work out.  LIES!  you are 1 billion times better off trusting your gut and waiting if you're not 100% sure than you are getting a divorce.

with clock, i had zero doubts about marrying him.  it is the best decision i ever made.

[] Less than year, too short
[] Less than a year, just right
[] Less than a year, too long

And so on and so forth.

"To this day that was the most bullshit caesar salad I have every experienced..." - triggerfinger

She called me out of the blue in November and asked me out. We went out the Tuesday before Thanksgiving. We were living together, for all intents and purposes, within about two weeks. I actually moved my shit in within less than two months. We were serious about marriage within that amount of time. I knew by the end of our second date. If she's to be believed (and I believe her) she knew at the end of our first by the way I said goodnight to her. I was a dumbass and told her I wanted to wait until I had more of my personal debt taken care of.

We married in May.

Still deliriously, stupidly happy.