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By littlestar (Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 04:44:49 AM EST) babies, kids, boobs, choir, music, apologies (all tags)
We've got sex and intrigue (and a boobie blast from the past), we've got children, we've got friends... it's a kaleidescope of humanity folks.

Life, as usual is nutters. There are many things to do, all the time. I'm assuming most people feel like this in their lives, I wonder if I am right?

I have two of them. Popsicle is four years old now. It's so crazy. She is such a little adult. She has very good language skills so she really does sound like an adult. She talks like me (which is hilarious and cute; she says things like 'indeed', to affirm a conversation, and 'that certainly sounds good!').

Also, I have never seen another child who deals with being sick like Popsicle. She is the trooper of all troopers. There is no whining or complaining, even when she is vomiting every thirty minutes for five hours (it was a nasty bug, we all got it, it sucked my ass). She was downstairs with my parents for her sickness (as I was upstairs throwing up), and when she came home the next day and I asked her about being sick she shrugged and said "I got through it". She is four. I know many adults who aren't that good about being sick.

Baby Yammers is doing...well. He is a going concern. People often use that particular phrase when speaking to me regarding him when we are out together. He is always on the go. He never stops moving. Never. If he is not in my arms (which he happens to like doing quit a bit, yes my back is fucking killing me he weighs frickin' 28 lbs) he is running around trying to find new things to pick up and move from one place to another and/or stick in his mouth and/or smash/bang.

He absolutely LOVES computers. He is obsessed with smashing his always sticky little paws onto the keyboard and somehow managing to do the most bizarre things. He somehow changed my system preferences... it's like magic! He also loves remote controls and telephones. He often pretends the remote control is a telephone and holds it to his ear and walks around the room talking into it. It's damned cute.

He is also the king of tantrums. He's a VERY persistent little bugger and gets VERY angry when he doesn't get his way. He has just turned one and we are currently in a stage of throwing himself onto the floor and just wailing. It's so very charming. I look forward to him getting over it when he finally realises it's not the way he's going to get what he wants. But, as I said, he is a persistent little bugger. I am (as always) watchful for signs of autism, as I was with Popsicle.

So, my music classes are going well. I have had some ups and downs, as is to be expected in all things to do with living but I think that it has turned out well. I have had good feedback from the ladies as it is sign up time for next term and they are signing up again to come back. Yeah for me! I am proud of my ladies as they have really come a long way from their first class and they try really hard. I am going to record them this Monday I think, as it is the penultimate class. I hope they bring their pretty voices. If the recording is even mediocre I will post it I think. It should be cute.

My youth choir has been a bit more disappointing. There were a lot of kids not showing up all the time. I have had a class of three kids for the last two weeks, and previous to that it was five I think. The class list shows seven kids. Anyway, that has been frustrating for me, and made it difficult to do things with them as as choir and as music theory students.

We got through a little theory, I did teach them about notes and the beginnings of how to read music. I think they get measures and know how to understand time signature. Of course, it's hard to know because every class there are kids missing stuff and then when they show up I have to catch them up. Their understanding of musicality has definitely improved. They understand more about rhythm and keeping time and how this is a relationship the music has with the notes on the page.

I did end up playing them classical music, we listened to bits of Wagner's Funeral March and Mozart's Eine Kleine Nacht Musik and did some comparisons about the feel of them and the instruments used and the mood of the music and rhythm to make that mood etc. They seemed to like that, and when some of  them didn't like the music too much, that was okay, but most of them did like it.

I also played them Louis Armstrong because I love him, and some of them found his voice nice and some didn't, and that was okay too. They all like the seven piece jazz though which made me happy. I absolutely stopped them in their tracks when I played an A cappella Ladysmith Black Mambazo, they were all running around playing and I put it on to end the game and they just froze. It was an excellent moment. They all stared at me and then one of them said in awe "what is that?". They had difficulty discerning whether there were instruments playing with the singers. The kids were astounded to learn it was just voices - they all thought it was beautiful. I asked them what they thought was neat about it and  one girl said "it sounds like one voice sort of" and another said "they sound like instruments". I know just what they mean.

We also listened to some Beastie Boys and they had a good, yet difficult time dissecting the instrumentation. A number of them were surprised by how many things there were going on in the music at the same time. The orchestration of it all, they were impressed with that. They caught on quickly to the back beat and enjoyed the rhythm, which I definitely understand!

I am concerned about what the youth choirs' last class will be like, as it is supposed to be a "recital". I'm clearly not going to be having any great recital with a group I haven't even seen together since the third class. In fact, many of them won't even know the last song we learned because it has been in the last three classes. Sooooooo.... that 'recital' may totally go badly. I hope I don't look too stupid. But, I will be saying something before they perform together about people missing classes and therefore them not getting what they could etc. It's the stupid parents. One girl told me she missed the last class cause her mom wanted to watch American Idol. Can we all see the irony here? Clearly the mom missed it. Bah!

Revisiting old Entries

So, I was perusing old diary entries as I sometimes do when I am putting pieces of someone on Husi together. Anyway, I was looking over CBB's diary entry about my rack. It was funny, all that intrigue about my boobs. Very silly, but quite entertaining.

I didn't say a lot at the time, I posted few comments on the diary, but one of them was heartfelt. That was a call out to codemonkey uk to apologise for calling me (a number of times in posting) a man in a woman's body. Now, I know it is CBB he doesn't like and he was lashing out at me to hurt him, but still, really it wasn't nice. I mean, you could give a girl a complex saying things like that. Not only that but he was fighting to say that not all women are like me (which is VERY true) as his wife is different, yet that made him label me in this offensive way, making me the bizarre one and his wife the normal one. That's not nice. Couldn't it just be that his wife is just fine being who she is, and I am just fine being who I am? Both of us are normal women because both of us are women who exist...right? So, I still await that apology, I think it is due, I am a big believer in forgiveness but one should take responsibility for their mistakes.

Okay. I was going to write more but I have stuff to do that I can't not do anymore.

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watchful for signs of autism by wiredog (2.00 / 0) #1 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 05:10:11 AM EST
Why? Does it run in the family?

I remember that diary. IIRC, I posted something about Canadian Boobies, or CBBs writing about them, being a Threat To World Peace or part of a Plan For World Domination or something.

Haven't heard from codemonkey_uk lately? Is he another one who's dropped out of sight?

Earth First!
(We can strip mine the rest later.)

I think he got busy by ucblockhead (2.00 / 0) #2 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 05:12:48 AM EST
He seems to post one cryptic paragraph every three months.
[ucblockhead is] useless and subhuman
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On autism by littlestar (2.00 / 0) #3 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 07:09:05 AM EST
Yes, CBB and his siblings have mild to medium Asperger's. This means that they all manifest (in different ways) difficulties with social interaction. For most of them it was something they dealt with in an okay manner, but it has caused them all issues at different points in their life.

Also, when you get smart people making babies you have more chance of autism to begin with (like in Silicon valley ), and then with the familial background, it certainly has some likelihood of occurrence (and more so with boys). I used to work as a Behavioural Therapist, working with autistic kids, and I married CBB so I always have my eyes open for signs. Truthfully I would expect him to be Aspergery, I'll be more surprised if he isn't.


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Mild to medium Asperger's. by wiredog (2.00 / 0) #6 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 07:31:48 AM EST
From what I've seen of the described symptomology I'd say that over half the male population is that way. But then ADD seems to be widely enough defined that over half the population has that, too.

Earth First!
(We can strip mine the rest later.)

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Ummm.... well...not really by littlestar (2.00 / 0) #8 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 08:26:50 AM EST
maybe half the male population YOU deal with and know and are friends with, but you're probably smart. That sort of warps your view. One of the required points for Aspergers is a very high IQ. I know a lot of men who have social issues but it can't be blamed on Aspergers cause they is too stupid. But, I do know what you mean... the whole of  'disorders' under the PDD balloon are sort of nebulas.

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Erm by Herring (2.00 / 0) #20 Tue Mar 20, 2007 at 02:44:15 AM EST
SD is diagnosed as Aspie but without a particularly high IQ.

You can't inspire people with facts
- Small Gods

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Wow by littlestar (2.00 / 0) #21 Tue Mar 20, 2007 at 06:18:54 AM EST
I cannot believe how quickly things change. The DSM IV does not include high IQ in the description. That is different then before. I am currently reading more about this now, very interesting, I'm glad that you pointed out my error.

I see that in most articles they point out a "general impression that Asperger's syndrome carries with it superior intelligence and a tendency to become very interested in and preoccupied with a particular subject" (Lois Freisleben-Cook from O.A.I.S) or something like it; but, normal IQ is the definition. That's interesting because even current doctors are saying the old information then as well, as my friend Knitters has an AS son (now 13) and his IQ being high was given as one of the definitives for being AS and not something else.

And, clearly, your experience is different, they have the up to date info. Hahaha.. wacky. Thanks for getting me up to date!

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I phrased badly by Herring (2.00 / 0) #24 Tue Mar 20, 2007 at 07:23:48 AM EST
She's never had an IQ test, but I'd guess somewhere around 130 (based upon educational achievement). I wouldn't count that as very high.

The definition I've read mentions "sometimes" high educational ability. She certainly has obsessive interest in stuff.

Actually, apparently some educational organisation want here to appear in a video they're doing about provision for Aspies in the state school system. She needs to appear in full-on white makeup/black lipstick though.

You can't inspire people with facts
- Small Gods

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I wouldn't base by littlestar (2.00 / 0) #25 Tue Mar 20, 2007 at 11:22:54 AM EST
her IQ on educational ability. The two don't really have anything to do with each other. Not to say you're not right, I obviously have no idea, I just wouldn't use books smarts as the litmus tester. Lots of people who are VERY smart suck or are mediocre in the education system.

Yeah, most of the definitions I have read today mention the possibility of the high IQ; it's clearly something that has changed. They used to define it differently, but shit is always changing, it's hard to keep up. Having not been in school for a while, and not dealing with the population now, clearly I am out of date.

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Heh by Herring (2.00 / 0) #26 Tue Mar 20, 2007 at 11:35:53 AM EST
I base my guess on the amount of work she does versus results. Plus a few people I have known who have been tested (I have and I got good results with no work).

You can't inspire people with facts
- Small Gods

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Reaffirming Human Stupidity by CheeseburgerBrown (4.00 / 1) #10 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 09:41:13 AM EST
If multiple sclerosis became the flavour of the month you'd see reports of a lot of ambiguous descriptions of the symptomology and a helluva lot of people claiming to have "partial MS" due to some half-imagined kinship with a vogue symptom or two.

Due to all the attention, you'd probably even see a spike in diagnoses, all things being equal, just from all the hype and gripe alone.

Still, it wouldn't change a damn thing for people who actually did have MS except for the strain from rolling their eyes everytime some idiot cried, "Me too!"

I am from a small, unknown country in the north called Ca-na-da.
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A friend has MS by wiredog (2.00 / 0) #11 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 09:54:22 AM EST
She's doing OK, considering. The progress is fairly slow in her. She can still walk and talk, but only slowly and very quietly.

A couple I know have a kid who has autism. Not the "slightly socially non-interactive" autism. The full "bangs head on wall and can't communicate with humanity" autism.

Actually, the autistic kid is doing much better, thanks to intense therapy. He will probably never go to school with other kids and it's doubtful he'll ever be able to function on his own, but at least he can communicate with people. A little bit.

Earth First!
(We can strip mine the rest later.)

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We Can Always Turn To Him... by CheeseburgerBrown (2.00 / 0) #12 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 10:19:05 AM EST
...when we've spilled our box of toothpicks and we only have four-fifths of a second to count them all.

I am from a small, unknown country in the north called Ca-na-da.
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Up to a point by ambrosen (4.00 / 3) #17 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 02:38:18 PM EST
Because the fixation on abstract structures which I'd call the most salient feature of Autistic Spectrum Disorders is an excess of a desirable characteristic which I'd call being able to make a fucking coherent model of the world unlike $flamingidiot who happens to have reminded me (a person not unknown to repeat strange arbitrary numbers to himself and get attached to them) through their glaring absence of ability to respect the desirability of making a measured response to whatever mildly emotionally distracting issue is needing to be fixed.

Whereas a failure to transmit nerve impulses is clearly a wrong and measurable fault. So autism can't be cleanly separated from normal behaviour and MS can.

I'd say a similar problem to autism is food intolerances, where it's merely a matter of how much of any food you can take (if it's a lot, the problem is referred to as indigestion) before it's a problem. And there, you get a high profit margin range of products in all shops catering to the affluent worried well at least as much to those who've suffered real problems and systematically discovered what it is that causes them problems. I think some people will always find someone else's illness they can hang their minor problems on to avoid admitting that their anomie is just anomie.

I also think it cogent to mention that I'm drunk.

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Ummmmm... by littlestar (2.00 / 0) #22 Tue Mar 20, 2007 at 06:27:26 AM EST
Asperger Syndrome or (Asperger's Disorder) is a neurobiological disorder; meaning amongst other things it is a failure with transmitting nerve impulses.

Just sayin'.

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Cite? by ambrosen (2.00 / 0) #23 Tue Mar 20, 2007 at 06:47:56 AM EST
Seems to me it's just a case of how the perfectly normally functioning parts of the brain are wired to each other slightly differently.

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silicon valley aspergers by MillMan (2.00 / 0) #7 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 07:58:06 AM EST
you should see the crowd on the train I take to work in the morning.

When I'm imprisoned as an enemy combatant, will you blog about it?

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I try to imagine by littlestar (2.00 / 0) #9 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 08:27:57 AM EST
I would guess it's a lot of heads down in papers/blackberries/computers and not a lot of chit chat.

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So just like the TTC by Driusan (2.00 / 0) #13 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 10:34:18 AM EST
With more papers/blackberries/computers.

Vive le Montréal libre.
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laptops. everywhere. by MillMan (2.00 / 0) #15 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 11:15:25 AM EST
Whereas I read books or sleep. Or stare blankly out the window.

When I'm imprisoned as an enemy combatant, will you blog about it?

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i've tried this once or twice by aphrael (2.00 / 0) #19 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 04:31:15 PM EST
but basically can't do it. the book or newspaper or whatever is just easier.

If television is a babysitter, the internet is a drunk librarian who won't shut up.
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excuse me by persimmon (2.00 / 0) #14 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 11:04:47 AM EST
I need to borrow "Aspergery" and put it next to "autistiform" in my list of admirable words which are probably not actual words.

I'll have it back to you in a minute or two. Promise.
"Nature is such a fucking plagarist."

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WIPO: Clean my guns by ammoniacal (4.00 / 1) #4 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 07:16:21 AM EST

"To this day that was the most bullshit caesar salad I have every experienced..." - triggerfinger

Thanks cu-ti by littlestar (4.00 / 1) #5 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 07:25:32 AM EST
Always making me giggle.

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i love popsicle. by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #16 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 01:00:29 PM EST
she's the only kid aside from my own siblings i've ever been able to have a full conversation with. she speaks very clearly, doesnt mumble (much, tiredness does that) and is crazy smart. i hope mine are just like her.
Dance On, Gir!
WIPO: i prefer a two phase approach by misslake (2.00 / 0) #18 Mon Mar 19, 2007 at 04:12:16 PM EST
i like to run away and hide and later find the person and apologise.

and for baby yammers:
boohbah zone from europe. it's made for little ones.

About the poll . . . by slozo (2.00 / 0) #27 Tue Mar 20, 2007 at 02:28:45 PM EST
. . . I think the biggest problem with apologies is understanding an apology is necessary - or the right thing to do.

I think the majority of people, good hearted people, want to think that they would apologise to someone when it was the right thing to do. In my experience, a good, straight-up apology to someone's face is one of the rarest things indeed . . . it's a good thing the poll is anonymous.

Wellllll by littlestar (4.00 / 1) #30 Thu Mar 22, 2007 at 03:47:10 AM EST
You have to remember that people don't always agree about when an apology is necessary. There are things that we all feel should have been aplogised for, but we don't get and have to let go (welcome to one of the MOST important things to a happy marriage).

The thing is, if there is something that someone doesn't apologise to you for, you should be going to them and talking about the issue if it is something you REALLY feel strongly about. Usually you will find out why the person didn't apologise, particularly if it is someone who cares about you. There is absolutely NO DOUBT that we have ALL been the person that hasn't aplogised to someone who feels they are due.

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How do Popsicle and Yam get along? by duxup (2.00 / 0) #28 Wed Mar 21, 2007 at 09:47:53 AM EST

In my experience children of Yams age can be pretty interested in the activities of their older siblings, to the older child’s dismay at times.  At the very least it could be useful in distracting the Yam for a while…

They are the best of friends by littlestar (2.00 / 0) #29 Thu Mar 22, 2007 at 03:41:29 AM EST
although Popsicle does have problems with sharing her toys, not his of course. But, they are sooo super cute together, Popsicle LOVES him and chases him to make him giggle and wrestles with him on the floor. It is super cute.

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I'm sorry by codemonkey uk (2.00 / 0) #31 Tue Jul 24, 2007 at 01:58:54 AM EST
I'm sorry I upset you.

--- Thad ---
Almost as Smart As you.
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