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What to do?

Send LO to the nunnery	4 votes - 80 %
Ground LO	0 votes - 0 %
Track LO via the iPhone	1 vote - 20 %
Email the parents and offer your cell phone number and tell to call at any time	1 vote - 20 %
Nothing	1 vote - 20 %

5 Total Votes

Hooo boy | 9 comments (9 topical, 0 hidden)

To be honest... by Metatone (4.00 / 3) #1 Thu Jun 05, 2014 at 06:20:26 PM EST

I'm not really sure that you should be doing anything.

Big Lug's parents are his problem.

Your problem is making sure LO stays within some acceptable bounds (whatever you define that to be) in her relationship with him. Ideally by agreement with her.

Beyond that... if you start trying to prevent LO from getting involved with drama by tracking etc. well, you'll just push her towards it... teenagers are a pain that way...

: IAWTP by ammoniacal (4.00 / 5) #3 Thu Jun 05, 2014 at 10:03:31 PM EST

Too much pressuring earned me a grandson. Keep the comm lines open with her.
"To this day that was the most bullshit caesar salad I have every experienced..." - triggerfinger
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: Yeah by yankeehack (4.00 / 2) #8 Fri Jun 06, 2014 at 02:06:53 PM EST

my gut feel on this is to be around for LO and talk to her but not actively get involved like I have with her earlier.
It's my practice when she goes out for her to tell me where and with who. We also have the track my iPhone app which we both have (she tracks me when I go on a date, for example.) With Big Lug around, he's met her while she's out and she doesn't necessarily update me about that.
As for possible drinking and drugs, LO doesn't regularly go to parties and partake, etc. and we talk about her friends that do. I'm home almost all the time and the bathroom is in my room so she cannot avoid me if she came home intoxicated anyway.
If I pressure her too much, she'll start hiding. I can pretty well tell when she is lying, and she's fudged a few details with Big Lug and her friends narc'd to me right in front of her.
Summer is coming in a few weeks and Big Lug is going to camp for the whole friggin summer THANK GOD, so I know this is one reason why she is hanging around with him now.
"...she dares to indulge in the secret sport. You can't be a MILF with the F, at least in part because the M is predicated upon it."-CBB
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Irrational dad comment goes here by clock (4.00 / 2) #2 Thu Jun 05, 2014 at 06:42:51 PM EST

Tell me how this ends and how you got there safe and sound. My instincts are probably bad and, well, HULK SMASH.

Hmm. But I'd be concerned about the situation too. Have you talked it out with her?

_{I agree with clock entirely --Kellnerin}

Relax by Herring (4.00 / 4) #4 Fri Jun 06, 2014 at 07:42:38 AM EST

What's the worst that could happen?

Actually that's probably not a very helpful thing to say.

You can't inspire people with facts
- Small Gods

That teenage truth trickle by georgeha (4.00 / 1) #5 Fri Jun 06, 2014 at 09:55:42 AM EST

Nearly_eighteen_year_old went to her first real party, after prom last weekend. She didn't want to start college without attending at least one real party.

She didn't go to prom, she thought it would be a waste of money and she didn't like it last year. But she got a modcloth dress altered to fit, went for makeup and hair pictures beforehand, then I dropped her off at the party at midnight.

At first she said there was drinking and pot at the party, and she had four Jack and cokes, which she liked. She said they didn't affect her though.

Last night she added a shot of vodka to her tale.

As far as LO, you could always add tracking to her phone. My bil does that with his 27 year old married daughter and 26 year old son. I know, too helicopterish.

I just text and call, and ask again to keep us informed of her plans.

tracking 26+27 y.o.? by bobdole (4.00 / 2) #6 Fri Jun 06, 2014 at 11:48:26 AM EST

What the .... ?!
-- The revolution will not be televised.

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: He might have been joking by georgeha (4.00 / 3) #7 Fri Jun 06, 2014 at 11:53:05 AM EST

but then they've always been very involved with their kids.

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It sounds like by littlestar (2.00 / 0) #9 Mon Jun 16, 2014 at 09:32:51 AM EST

You're handling it really well. You can't control his parents that's for sure. You've given your girl good foundation, she sounds like a good responsible girl, and you're close to her which is awesome, so she talks to you. Sounds like a pretty good situation to me. :) you're gonna monitor to your ability, and make sure you keep your girl to her rules. That's all you can do. :)
*twinkle*twinkle*

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