Print Story Late September Update
By yankeehack (Sat Sep 29, 2018 at 04:00:15 PM EST) (all tags)
And to think, this time last year pretty much sucked.

With everything going on in the news this week, this week has been...unsettling. I had not seen an accurate description of what happened to me until I read this Twitter thread.

I had pieced together most of it, but this particular point took me years to figure out.

This is most probably the most public place I will discuss it, for a variety of reasons.


In other news...

LO is doing fine. She loves the house she is living in off campus this semester (all three of her BFFs are studying abroad this semester so subletted in a house of people she knew not that well). The puppy loves his housemates. However, the puppy's behavior is getting less and less service dog like. He LOVES people (especially drunk kids on campus). He is distracted easily. He has his quirks.

Even LO is thinking he is going fail the advanced training he'll be sent to starting in February. We'll see.


Work, in general...

I'm burned out this week and pulled long hours because of a thing that happened (no one's fault, just crappy timing). I was highly encouraged to log off early on Friday and not touch my laptop this weekend, which I am doing. I lie - I do have to work a little on Sunday evening, to get some emails out to my Euro-based coworkers or else we lose a day.

In a few weeks my co-workers and I will be traveling to a $SecretLocation for an all company meeting. As the date gets closer, I am getting a little more excited.


I have been interviewing people to join my particular team, and one thing I have noticed is that the people who try to contact me on LinkedIn are not specifically qualified, and frankly, are wasting my time. I have responded once to a number of people, basically saying, "If you have any questions, contact our HR person. But if you are interested, please apply." But then they try to continue the conversation. One woman has not applied - I suspect she is trying to get hired as a contractor - and she is trying to get on the phone with me. I have to resist my urge to tell these people we've gotten hundreds of applications for this particular position.

Another tip: If your LinkedIn title has nothing to do with the job description you are applying for, I am immediately ignoring your resume. That goes double for people with executive/CMO in their titles (as this jd is for a team player).

Also, if you are one of the lucky ones and end up getting two offers at the same time, but don't get a counter-offer from the company with the lower offer, all you had was great timing. You befouled your endgame in some massive way. cough cough

Thus endeth my recruiting rant.


My quest to find a place I like near work in CA is not going quickly... In the past four weeks, there were maybe 2 places that could have been workable (what the fuck is up with the shared laundry situation), except by the time I got to ask, they already had applicants. (There has to be some quasi-secret property manager/realtor network to tap into or something.) Since it's now looking very likely I will have the puppy with me next year, the search has gotten tighter. My manager is now at the "teasing yh" stage. Everyone is telling me to settle for Mountain View. :-|


A story...

I traveled to the promised land a few weeks ago, and for the first few days was at a meeting in a beautiful coastal town (that I hadn't been to since I was dating the ex). The purpose was to have a few distraction-less days with the small management team I'm a part of. We were in the middle of a stressful quarter (there were a couple things going on, some we knew and some we didn't at the time). Suffice it to say we needed the time together. The one thing I appreciate about my work is that we genuinely like each other.

After our meeting that first day, we had a long evening out. We walked around the coastal town hitting a few places. It was safe, as all of us had things going on and we needed the night out. (If there is anything we know about YH, it is that she gets verrrrrry chatty during a long evening out.) After some curious prompting during the night (by someone at the meeting who had figured something out), I indirectly said something. Not much later, everyone passed out and went to bed.

The next morning was stupidly painful on a physical level. The subject wanted to talk but I was not in any way ready. "I don't think that is something you would normally say, I think you were letting your subconscious talk last night," he said. Part of the reason for the meeting was that the subject had been checked out (he had discussed leaving the company with me). After the meeting, the subject left for an already planned vacation which I thought would be the decision point for his next steps. For the next few weeks, I kept it laid back and professional.

Fast forward to Friday, and the subject tells me that he "turned a corner this week." He had a meeting with the other leaders and he said he wants to stay and have a larger role in the company. I told him I was happy to hear it.


< A sad tale's best for winter | Generation gaps >
Late September Update | 6 comments (6 topical, 0 hidden)
Working in CA by ucblockhead (2.00 / 0) #1 Sat Sep 29, 2018 at 04:31:35 PM EST
I know some people who relocated here and got themselves in not-so great commute situations.

As far as linkedin goes...fortunately, doesn't happen to me much, but anyone I don't know/have worked with gets round filed out of hand.  We have recruiters for a reason.
[ucblockhead is] useless and subhuman

Commute by ucblockhead (2.00 / 0) #2 Sat Sep 29, 2018 at 05:11:49 PM EST
First rule: If it involves a bridge, think long and hard.

When I moved to the Bay Area, we picked Walnut Creek, and while we really like the area, it has essentially doomed me to thirty years of terrible commutes.
[ucblockhead is] useless and subhuman

[ Parent ]
I have been shooting for by yankeehack (4.00 / 1) #3 Sat Sep 29, 2018 at 08:04:24 PM EST
"being close enough so I could walk or take Caltrain up a stop."

Mountain View wouldn't be a difficult commute, it would just make me car dependent, which is something I did not want.
"...she dares to indulge in the secret sport. You can't be a MILF with the F, at least in part because the M is predicated upon it."-CBB

[ Parent ]
Perfect by ucblockhead (2.00 / 0) #4 Sat Sep 29, 2018 at 10:23:51 PM EST
Expensive, but definitely what you want to do.
[ucblockhead is] useless and subhuman
[ Parent ]
if it involves a bridge by cicero (2.00 / 0) #5 Thu Oct 04, 2018 at 12:47:06 PM EST
walnut creek can be rough.

I think if it involves two or more of bridge, tunnel, > 20 miles on one of the major freeways, you're gonna have a bad time.

[ Parent ]
60-70 minutes by ucblockhead (2.00 / 0) #6 Thu Oct 04, 2018 at 02:45:41 PM EST
My commute is 60-70 minutes by train.  (ten minute drive, forty minute ride, ten minute walk, variance depends on when the train arrives)  I've done for 24 years, with two approximately one year gaps.

I drove for about a year, but that was too draining.  It was 50-90 minutes each way.
[ucblockhead is] useless and subhuman

[ Parent ]
Late September Update | 6 comments (6 topical, 0 hidden)