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By lm (Tue Apr 25, 2017 at 06:53:15 AM EST) (all tags)
The service was presided over by an Episcopalian priest, a Unitarian Universalist minister and a Native American medicine woman.

Mom and her sweetie wrote the ceremony themselves. It was warm and mostly non-traditional. During parts I had trouble keeping a straight face.

The octogenarian Episcopalian priest had an interesting name, Will Smith. Now I can go around saying that Will Smith married my mother.

Will Smith was a mostly gentile and fuzzy guy. I didn't like his sermon very much, it seemed condescending to me in spots. Given the history of LGBT rights, I'm not all that surprised that the sermon would be at least a little triumphalist but the analogy of Albert Einstein to God was more than I cared to hear.

Worse, he misrepresented Parmenides and Heraclitus. I would say that this may just be a function of when he got his sheepskin in philosophy. But I've seen Malcolm Schofield gives talks before and Will Smith probably only has a decade on him, if that.

He also got some facts wrong, saying that only 3 Christian sects fully recognized same-sex marriage: the UUs, the Episcopalians, and the United Church of Christ. I'm pretty sure that the Presbyterians, the Evangelical Lutherans, and the Quakers do as well just to name a few.

The UU minister, Mary Reaman, was quite personable. I would say that I had wished that she talked more and Will Smith talked less so that I could get a better handle on the whole UU thing but (a) I think that Will Smith did a very adequate job of expressing UU theology and (b) from what my mom keeps saying, there is no orthodoxy in UU. That said, what I like most about studying religion is just hearing what people believe. It would have been fun to get more than one story.

The medicine woman, Debbie Coxe had the smallest role in the legal formalities. She, however, presided over a protection ceremony the night before and did the blessing of the rings. Aside from the vows, she played the largest role in the spiritual formalities. I didn't get much of a chance to talk to her at all. She seemed fun.

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The best part of the ceremony is that I don't recall ever seeing my mother with that much joy on her face. In many ways she's had a hard life. I don't recall a relationship that she's had where she wasn't constantly trying to be someone she wasn't. And it looks like she's finally found that.

One of my uncles was engaged in a proper flamewar during the ceremony. I turned my phone on after the ceremony so that I could take a picture. I checked Facebook while waiting for the reception and the timestamps on his comments denying climate change on the post of one of his nephews indicated that he was commenting all through the ceremony.

I ran into the parents of my best friend in grade school. They're good friends with my mother now. It's funny how many recovering Catholics I know that have gone UU.

While cleaning up after the reception, there was about half a bottle of white wine left unconsumed. (Well, there was more than that, but only one open bottle.) I saw one of my new step-brothers empty it into his travel mug to take it on the road. Hopefully his husband was driving the two of them home.

All in all, it was a fun time.

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Awwwww by yankeehack (4.00 / 1) #1 Wed Apr 26, 2017 at 02:57:46 PM EST
Awww... your Mom and her wife look so happy!

As for sects that recognize gay marriage - out of the Presbyterians, PCUSA does, but PCA does not.

PCUSA are the mainline Presbyterians. PCA is the sect that broke away and went evangelical starting in the 70s. They're basically Baptists who can drink and dance.

My siblings and I were perfunctorily raised (and baptised in) PCUSA churches. Very "high church" but very accepting.

On the other hand, my brother and sister-in-law and their kids go to a PCA church and it's painful for me to attend even milestone services. For example, during my nephew's baptism the pastor's homily was fire and brimstone, so much so LO turned around to me and whispered, "After that, wouldn't it be funny if baby S turned out to be gay?"

"...she dares to indulge in the secret sport. You can't be a MILF with the F, at least in part because the M is predicated upon it."-CBB

Hey, now. by ObviousTroll (4.00 / 2) #2 Thu Apr 27, 2017 at 11:01:05 AM EST
They're basically Baptists who can drink and dance.

I'm a baptist who drinks, dances and our first gay marriage ceremony was several years ago. Actually, come to think of it, one of our lay ministers has come out as trans. 

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