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By yankeehack (Fri May 06, 2016 at 12:49:41 PM EST) (all tags)
Oh boy...


I am in disbelief. A month. Crazy. Surreal. In denial. The days are flying by and boy, am I NOT a master of detail these days...more like walking around like a zombie.

Last weekend, there was some sports team stuff I had to go to and the other parents were in the same headspace. Just surreal for all of us.


Some additionally nice news on the LO for those of you who are connected with me on FB know that I live in this old money town. A place where acceptable fundraisers include kitchen tours and special shopping days at certain retailers. Anyway, the people who run these fundraisers have a scholarship fund and LO applied for and interviewed for one of the scholarships. We heard a few days ago that she's getting a scholarship, which amounts to maybe covering books for a semester for the next few years. Not bad, not bad at all.


In other LO news...vindication for ME. A few weekends ago, LO wanted to go to visit Fucky McFuckface at his school. I was like, "Well, you're 18. I'm not happy about it at all, but go. if you want." "Ok Mom, I know you're not happy and not condoning it." So she went and she returned home the next morning to do a fundraiser with her sports team and then crashed the next day. We didn't talk about it.

This past Monday, LO and I went shopping for prom dresses (as prom is next weekend) and we were gearing up for her and McFuckface to go. I even received an invite from one of the other senior parents for a parent's pre-prom party. LO and I talked about transportation as they have to get a final number on the limo bus and etc., etc. I wasn't sure about McFuckface's logistics as he has a race the day after prom and there was some event that he wanted LO to go to that following day (Sunday). The only way that LO could make the Sunday event was to skip school the following day, which I wasn't thrilled about.  

On Tuesday around lunchtime, I get a text from LO saying that she wasn't taking McFuckface to prom and she was looking for a new date. Apparently he was being difficult about logistics (not a surprise, he's a selfish kid, and doesn't think about consequences) and LO had enough. LO said "I know" and "Go for it Mom."

As it turns out, LO put a message on instagram about her need for a prom date, and a cute boy from summer camp who knows LO's girlfriends was ready to step up. He even has a tux and agreed to help pay.

So, I am just hoping it's the last I hear of LO hanging out with Fucky McFuckface. We'll see.


In other college news, one of LO's BFF was royally screwed over by a college coach for $sport. Very long story short, BFF is a very smart and accomplished girl who will go places. Her and LO are very similar in a lot of ways - they even got the same goddamn SAT score. BFF is better than LO at $sport, as she is an inch or two taller and has attended some of the summer development camps. However, BFF is a mess outside of the public eye and worries a lot about what people think. She also hates her parents who worry a lot about what people think. BFF been majorly rebelling this past year - she makes LO look like a saint. (Once BFF gets out of her parents house and everyday influence she should be ok, but she's gotta figure that out.)

Anyway, up until this past Christmas, rebellious BFF was dating a college aged boy who lives on the West Coast. There was a whole drama including her having sex, needing Plan B, having more sex, her lying to her parents about where she was and traveling to see the college boy, etc. etc. So, despite everyone telling her not to, guess what her college plan was? To be near the college boy. She didn't have the grades for the Golden Bear school he attends so she looked at Western State schools, specifically ones who would give her a scholarship for $sport so her parents wouldn't be on the hook.

The relationship finally broke down after Christmas, but rebellious BFF was still aiming to go to this state school since she was getting a $sport scholarship. Her parents agreed to the plan since they would only be on the hook for travel and expenses. So BFF was accepted to the school, but nothing about the scholarship. Mysteriously, the coach who promoted the scholarship became increasingly unreachable, and BFF did not participate in spring signing day. (There's a fall and spring signing day where HS school seniors "sign" their commitment letters. It can be a big PR thing for both HS and college.) THREE FUCKING DAYS BEFORE MAY 1, which is the traditional College decision day, the coach reappears and days the scholarship isn't there but she could walk on if her machine scores were high. What the fuck?

BFF did not have a cough plan B, as she didn't want to consider other options this past fall. So after a day or two of going back and forth with her parents, her parents are now pressuring her to attend our state school satellite campus and then transfer to the main WE ARE campus next spring. Since last weekend was the main $sport parent weekend, BFF was more than a little bummed out.

In the end, this will probably be the best for BFF, as it would have been entirely worse to have to be dependent on a coach at a faraway school. I had nightmares about this for LO and it was a big reason why I wasn't pushing LO to get a sports scholarship.

So with this turn of events, no one from LO's competitive $sport class is getting money for $sport in college. Oh boy, do I have thoughts about that.


Finally, in job search news...I'm currently interviewing with two organizations, so we will see. Trying to get more feelers out there.

This week was nuts, as I had a number of local recruiters contacting me for a certain job that is in my wheelhouse. I spoke with the first guy, and he put my resume to their HR person...who then said no. (Insert long story about how this small company only wanted someone from a big company even though they are not a player in any sense of the word.) But what was amusing was that the company screwed the recruiter royally, after presenting the opening as exclusive to the first recruiter, apparently they "opened it up" for other ones. The first guy had no idea.

I am also not working with the startup at this point, as the latest check just didn't appear. So I just stopped talking to them. There's nothing else I can do about it and I refuse to get into an argument.

Financially I am ok until midsummer and will put plan B (temporary contract jobs) into play after LO's graduation.

That is all...

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Let Them Make Their Own Mistakes | 10 comments (10 topical, 0 hidden)
There are by anonimouse (4.00 / 1) #1 Fri May 06, 2016 at 03:14:45 PM EST
...too many Plan B's in this story. 

Girls come and go but a mortgage is for 25 years -- JtL
That's by yankeehack (2.00 / 0) #2 Fri May 06, 2016 at 04:56:09 PM EST
A subliminal message, I believe.
"...she dares to indulge in the secret sport. You can't be a MILF with the F, at least in part because the M is predicated upon it."-CBB
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damn by dev trash (2.00 / 0) #3 Fri May 06, 2016 at 10:02:47 PM EST
Back in my day we woulda just sulked at no prom date ( I didn't go anyway ) but today!  Instagram to the r-e-s-c-u-e

Teens these days... by yankeehack (2.00 / 0) #4 Sat May 07, 2016 at 02:03:56 PM EST
LO doesn't use facebook except to communicate ironically with me or other relatives or to make big announcements. She doesn't use twitter, either. But she and the other teens maintain two instagram accounts (one for fantasy and one for bitchin' about lyfe).

Some of her girlfriends are going stag to prom, so that would have been ok too. She was more pissed that she spent the money on a possibly unused ticket.

Last summer, I drove her and the new prom date to and from camp one weekend. I think he kinda likes her and obviously isn't too upset about how things worked out.

I didn't go to senior prom either, I was still seeing my younger boyfriend at another high school and the boys in my grade were SO LAME. So a bunch of us girls had an alternate prom night. We had fun.
"...she dares to indulge in the secret sport. You can't be a MILF with the F, at least in part because the M is predicated upon it."-CBB

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Banned from Prom by me0w (4.00 / 1) #6 Sun May 08, 2016 at 09:03:53 AM EST
I didn't go to mine because my group of friends got banned. We decided we were going to go in Victorian costume and the prom committee found out and pitched a fit. We were told if we showed up in costumes that we wouldn't be allowed in. So instead we went to the Royal York hotel in Toronto (in our costumes). The staff there thought it was brilliant and took all sorts of pictures and they gave us a free dinner. I think that would have been better than prom.

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I skipped my junior year prom by lm (4.00 / 1) #7 Sun May 08, 2016 at 10:03:26 PM EST
My parents and my date's parents both allowed us to stay out all night because it was prom.

They believed us when we said we were going dressed in tee shirts and blue jeans.

Among other things we went down to the Cincinnati riverfront atop the Serpentine Wall and through handfuls of lentils at all the couples decked out in their prom finery.

There is no more degenerate kind of state than that in which the richest are supposed to be the best.
Cicero, The Republic
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I think he kinda likes her by dev trash (4.00 / 2) #5 Sat May 07, 2016 at 07:49:42 PM EST
Of course he does.  Have you not seen any 80s romcoms?

A recruiter got screwed? by wiredog (2.00 / 0) #8 Mon May 09, 2016 at 06:48:28 AM EST

I had fun at Prom. Afterwards we went to the all night cut-above-a-diner restaurant.

Earth First!
(We can strip mine the rest later.)

Proms by Herring (4.00 / 2) #9 Tue May 10, 2016 at 03:26:14 PM EST
I gather that in recent years, some UKian schools have been having them. Given that in a large percentage of USian film and TV output, they seem to be a source of stress, disappointment, expense etc. I regard this as a Bad Thing.

In my day, we'd go to grubby "discos" in grubby village halls from about the age of 15 and try to buy booze from local shops and pubs to help us fail to pull and be miserable about it.

You can't inspire people with facts
- Small Gods

Yeah, by yankeehack (2.00 / 0) #10 Wed May 11, 2016 at 09:50:40 PM EST
When LO did the UK student exchange a few years ago she said that the UK kids were fascinated by prom.

LO is kind of over and done with the whole prom thing. She managed to attend several as someone's date and had an epic promposal last year so, she's been there, done that.

"...she dares to indulge in the secret sport. You can't be a MILF with the F, at least in part because the M is predicated upon it."-CBB

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