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By yankeehack (Fri Aug 28, 2015 at 02:07:00 PM EST) ihavenoideawhatiamdoing (all tags)
+ I've been around, but not around around or even around around around. I'll catch up with everything and everyone else when I can process it. Yes, it's that bad.


  • So shit started going sideways here a few weeks ago and it is not fun. Between company founder flaking out and LO being a crazy, uncertain, scared, rebellious teenager. I've been eating ibuprofen starting at about 11am each day for, shit, since early July at least. But then it got worse.
  • The story about work is that the founder is overwhelmed with personal things (a long contested divorce and a grubby ass new girlfriend) and doesn't want to put more money into the startup. Back in March, I worried about lack of customers and thought that development would catch up. Now, we have a few customers but the founder doesn't want to continue to fundraise, claiming that the terms are too horrible. (I should note that he's been oversubscribed with people offering more money, but he just doesn't want to do it.) So, he wants more customers and to pre-bill them. The problem is that we don't have enough hands on deck to manage the data and the developers were hoping not to have to program any big-data stuff. I've complained about the VP of Engineering before - and his flakiness and lack of business or data experience has been hurting us for a while.
  • On Monday the founder was depressed and said something like, "Well, at the very least, we can sell the technology." Oof. Today's call he was more upbeat because he got some leads.
  • I'm still being paid a stipend. I am spending more than I bring in just because of life. When I heard about the fundraising in May and a verbal promise to get us to market salaries, I thought, "Ok, I can deal until the summer." Well, he's refusing to fundraise and summer is almost over.
  • With the flakiness, I'm more than a bit worried that he will just close up shop.
  • Suffice it to say that I have been sending my resume all over. I am looking for remote work, as I don't think I could deal with an office again. I'm upset that my plan of staying the course for this year isn't going to happen.
  • No big health issues except for the recurring ear infections that LO has been fighting since March - which included multiple pediatrician visits and frantic calls from the nurse at summer camp for me to get scrips from the doctor. And then other weird shit that happened in tandem including recurring staph impetigo infections (most likely from a teammate), not quite pink eye infections and something that presented as painfully and bloody as a UTI, but wasn't. LO has taken more antibiotics in the last few months than she has her whole life. It seems she's ok now.
  • The exhausting thing about being a single parent isn't merely the logistics, or the money, it's the fact you bear the unbridled worry all by yourself.
  • It's been crazy with LO, just an emotional rollercoaster with her. I understand it, it's hard at this age and being in a competitive environment, and getting judged and not knowing what she wants. I get it, but every day there is drama. And the testing of boundaries (kid LOVES staying out until 2 or 3 in the morning and "forgetting" to text me) has not been helping.
  • Last week, LO was in Cape Cod with her male BFF, staying at his grandmother's place. They aren't hooking up (although he would bang anything if he could) but LO likes his almost-boyfriend like attention. I think it was good for LO to get some grandmotherly attention. He's leaving for college (unfortunately a little too close at Delaware) tomorrow as he's one of the last of the older friend group to leave. LO is distraught.
  • I am hoping that with the last of the friends leaving and with our trip to Boston, Massachusetts & Vermont next week, LO will double down with the college applications and etc.
  • LO was being heavily recruited by a DIII coach at a certain small upstate NY college known for it's writing program (one of your alma maters). Coach emailed for months. Coach asked for LO's test scores and credentials. I encouraged it, so we could say no stone unturned. Admissions office came back with "not admissable". School is ~$65k/yr. and the aid (if any) would have been possibly grant based. LO was a little salty, understandably. Me, well you're not a writer anyway and I'm pretty sure they would not have "writing for science majors."
  • Otherwise, LO isn't chasing recruiting opportunities as she is being deemed as too small by most of the competitive schools. She's got one or two other coaches talking to her, so we'll see.
  • In other news, I am pretty much estranged socially from my family at this point. My sister home for the summer with her two little ones and the assumptions about things, especially about where LO and I should spend our free time (taking care of the nieces and nephews apparently) got to be a little much. Shit that was actually said to me, "Wow, I wish LO was around so she could babysit." and "Oh it's your birthday? You should come down with us to the beach to be with the kids." How about no. I never pressured anyone to take care of LO when she was little. I now totally get why there are flaky, absent minded aunts and uncles. Totally get it. I totally vow to be flaky and unpredictable from here on out.
  • Nothing new on the guy front. I mean drama galore, but nothing new. Who did I go out with, who did I call out, who did I dump, who did I ghost, who ghosted on me, who drunk texted or FB'd me, who asked me to be his mistress because he wasn't leaving his wife, who was the absolutely amazing hot sexy widower I went out with but then went silent?
  • My plan for today (as I have been fucking off anyway) is to grab my car once LO comes back from her errands, get some beer, and not think about things for a bit.
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I suppose Ashley Madison will be looking for lots by georgeha (4.00 / 2) #1 Fri Aug 28, 2015 at 02:45:33 PM EST
of new help.

There's something about a person willing and able to start a company that makes it hard for them to keep it going successfully, maybe they get bored.

I've been updating my resume and pondering references too, as the whole "compensate for shitty software by sending George onsite" isn't sustainable.


Actually by yankeehack (2.00 / 0) #2 Fri Aug 28, 2015 at 08:07:26 PM EST
I used to work for a competitor of a vendor that Ashley Madison used. So, the hack is delicious in it's own right (they saved way too much data internally), even if it looks like an inside job.

I've been working with the guy for the past 6 years, so I know him. This is by far the most unstable and troubled and introverted he's been, ever. I really do not like this younger girlfriend he has, I think she's making him make bad decisions. And oh, he is digging in on the divorce. Money, man, money.
"...she dares to indulge in the secret sport. You can't be a MILF with the F, at least in part because the M is predicated upon it."-CBB

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holy cow by iGrrrl (2.00 / 0) #3 Fri Aug 28, 2015 at 11:15:41 PM EST
That's a lot of stuff all at once.

"Beautiful wine, talking of scattered everythings"
(and thanks to Scrymarch)

yeah by dev trash (2.00 / 0) #4 Fri Aug 28, 2015 at 11:27:48 PM EST
I'm on vacation and co-worker IM'ed that yet another person was let go today.  Confidence that our company survives another 6 months is slipping. ( May not be bad for me, our department is becoming a part of corporate, it's the other 99% that may well just go away. )

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I DON'T CARE ABOUT YOUR BALLS! ->clock
Job weirdness here, too by wiredog (2.00 / 0) #5 Mon Aug 31, 2015 at 07:52:55 AM EST
I should really diarize.

Earth First!
(We can strip mine the rest later.)

Sorry 'bout the drunk texting. by ammoniacal (2.00 / 0) #6 Mon Aug 31, 2015 at 11:21:25 PM EST

"To this day that was the most bullshit caesar salad I have every experienced..." - triggerfinger

sorry this is so late... by gzt (2.00 / 0) #7 Fri Sep 04, 2015 at 02:41:22 PM EST
...but "That's what she said!" (to your title)

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