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By aphrael (Fri Jun 26, 2015 at 11:53:29 PM EST) (all tags)
One of the unhappiest days of my life was the day after the 2008 election. My non-local friends and family were all thrilled: Obama won. I was despondent: the voters of California had just derecognized gay marriages.


I'm 41 years old. I grew up in a world where the supreme court allowed states to ban all gay sex. I grew up in a world where 'gay' was a dirty word, in a world where it was completely unimaginable (to me) that anyone gay would be able to know a happy life because they would be social outcasts, forever hated because of their nastiness ... and forever tainted with the potential, the likelihood even, of a terrible disease that was so unspeakable that it could not be named in polite company. Marriage wasn't on the table; nothing more than life in the shadows was on the table.

I've got issues with the decision, things about it that make me unhappy. And yet at the same time none of them really matter. The Supreme Court said the constitution protects my right to marry. The President of the United States celebrated.

I know the world has changed. I know it intellectually, I know it (most of the time) emotionally. I do not live in the shadows, I am not rejected for my sexuality, I have been married for years and my friends and family embrace me.

And yet, deep inside, there's always still that fourteen year old kid, not wanting to admit to himself that he's gay because of what being gay would mean, and that kid is crying today; this is more than he could ever have hoped for, more than he could ever have dreamed would be possible.

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Ya know by clock (4.00 / 1) #1 Sat Jun 27, 2015 at 09:42:21 AM EST
I'm just so sorry that it took so fucking long to get here. It's not fast but there is progress.


I agree with clock entirely --Kellnerin

VSFP by Gedvondur (2.00 / 0) #2 Sun Jun 28, 2015 at 03:24:55 PM EST



yup by wumpus (4.00 / 1) #3 Sun Jun 28, 2015 at 08:09:12 PM EST
This was the first post I just looked at and thought: there really isn't any appropriate reply, just find the "put on front page" button and hit it.

Wumpus

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