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By yankeehack (Fri May 09, 2014 at 01:47:44 PM EST) (all tags)
Karma, karma, karma...

So, yesterday I get a message on that business networking site -- in parts in all caps -- from a sales guy at the struggling, mismanaged employer I worked at before moving to the startup world. He wrote in his message that the head of HR wanted me to contact her because they had some open positions and if "I had any friends who I could recommend."

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA, fuckers. Oh how I laughed so hard at reading THAT message. Oh, how I told some people who were laid off there so they could laugh too. Also, the fact the head of HR "could not reach me" is interesting...not sure if she just didn't want to put her name on this former employee outreach or that she was uncomfortable with the legal ramifications of such. Also, that company sure as hell would not pay me for my time to help them source talent even if I wanted to send someone to that hellhole.

I thought about writing a snarky message back to the idiot sales guy, but I'm just ignoring it. If someone else contacts me from there, I'll just mention that I'm involved in recruitment and hiring at my present job and it would be inappropriate for me to comment on candidates.



LO has been up and down this week...she likes people, she doesn't like people, she wants to do this and then that. The mercurial moodswings of a teenager, I think. On Monday night, I attended her driver's ed class as they had a local DA talk about the driving related cases he's prosecuted. It was sobering and interesting. On Tuesday night, I had to go to a parent meeting for her sports team and she went out with a boy to get food and then talk. She walked in after 10pm..."But Mom I can sleep in as I have a dental appointment in the morning!" and I was annoyed. On Wednesday night, I went out and she stayed in (as best as I could tell from the iPhone tracking app.) Last night, she came home with sore broken blisters on her hands from rowing and went to bed early. (Those blisters were gross!!!)  Tonight, she might hang out with her BFF who is having family problems. Can I tell you that I'm happy LO feels safe enough to help her BFF?

LO told me she felt like she was "all over the place" right now with boys and activities and her future. I don't doubt her feelings. She does want to please me and have a good time, but it's that balance which her and I are both struggling with. (It was mentioned to me, and I think this makes a LOT of sense, that LO's main driver is FOMO - fear of missing out...)


Another LO anecdote: So her and I came home on Monday night and parked in a nearby lot for a town park. We see a group of giggling kids get out of a car and LO is like "Oh they're going to get high in the park." I'm all "Oh shit don't tell me that." Kids see us and quickly go on their way to the park. LO and I walk home and I loudly say something about smelling something. "Mommmm!" LO says in horror.

A few minutes later, LO and I are home and she gets a text from her troubled ex-boyfriend from last year. "Did you and your Mom see us in the park? We're all paranoid you guys saw us." LO tells me about the text. I tell LO I wish I had a siren so I could scare the shit out of the kids. Or maybe we should go put a note on the car. I won't, however, go to his crazy ass mom. Not this time.

Oh, and his mom went to rehab earlier this year. The only way I found out was that his mom's best friend is working with my boss, and she (the friend) told me while she was drunk and then she was super paranoid that I would tell other people AND HAD MY BOSS ASK ME NICELY NOT TO SHARE THIS TO ANYONE. When the friend told me this, I was just super happy to get verification that I wasn't all that off base about my feelings about this crazy lady.

The worst part about being told some secret and then given a phone call later not to spread that secret...that it's not the first time it's happened to me in this goddamn xanax-popping, chardonnay-sipping, blonde moms driving SUVs town. This is why I don't hang out with other parents here.


Sports team I have been largely uninvolved in the sports team stuff this year as I'm busy and I'm uninterested in the machinations of it all. That and LO is thinking about dialing down her participation in the sport next year as it's now a 6 day a week thing and she wants to do some other activities.

Anyway, so at the last meeting I asked if we are going to Nationals which is in California this June as I hadn't heard an update. The new president said no, that "We didn't do enough fundraising." Oh sweetie, that was a nice convenient excuse to have, especially when the fundraising is so anemic and not worth my time. I'll pay for cost of goods as it's a 501c3, but I ain't bothering with the rest...But I digress. LO is burned out as it is, and it has become very apparent if she wanted to grow, she can't depend on the club anyway. A few girls are rowing elsewhere this summer, including her BFF.


I went out with the guy again this past Wednesday...we kept it low key and I had fun. He's a bachelor in his soon to be mid 40s and coaches a youth sport in addition to his work, so he gets the whole teen girl thing. He's kind of separate in terms of how socially busy he is. He should definitely have a full, rich social life of people and things to do, but it's still early yet to be hanging out at each other's things as he put it.

I don't think he's seeing other ladies...the one thing I'm wondering about is if he thinks he's just "doing me a favor" to get me out and about. We shall see.

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Karma, karma, karma is always followed by by anonimouse (4.00 / 2) #1 Fri May 09, 2014 at 02:56:54 PM EST

Girls come and go but a mortgage is for 25 years -- JtL
Except when it's followed by by Scrymarch (4.00 / 1) #2 Sat May 10, 2014 at 04:54:34 AM EST
... Police

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Or Ghia by georgeha (4.00 / 2) #3 Sat May 10, 2014 at 09:01:24 AM EST

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I got ironically irked by the Employee by georgeha (4.00 / 1) #4 Sat May 10, 2014 at 09:02:35 AM EST
Referral spam I get from my current employer, as all the qualified local people I know that need jobs were laid off from current employer a few years ago.

Exactly by yankeehack (2.00 / 0) #5 Sat May 10, 2014 at 10:31:41 AM EST
Everyone who left because they saw what was coming (including me) understands that they're incompetent, it's just amazing that they would think we would help them.

On the other hand, I've helped a number of folks from there to look for jobs and in some cases I've used them for my present company.

They won't find who they think they want, so they'll hire just out of school grads to train and underpay. And the cycle continues again.
"...she dares to indulge in the secret sport. You can't be a MILF with the F, at least in part because the M is predicated upon it."-CBB

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The ominous part for me by georgeha (4.00 / 1) #6 Sat May 10, 2014 at 01:21:45 PM EST
is that I'm hearing rumors my former manager, who got laid off two years ago, is coming back. I'm guessing he's going to get less.

He's got comparable technical experience, plus managerial experience, and he couldn't find anything better.

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Was he willing to move? by wiredog (2.00 / 0) #7 Mon May 12, 2014 at 06:39:47 AM EST
Managers with technical experience are in high demand in the DC area.

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(We can strip mine the rest later.)

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Probably not by georgeha (2.00 / 0) #8 Mon May 12, 2014 at 07:51:40 AM EST
Snowmobiling is his favorite outdoor activity, followed by hunting. He's got a family cabin in the Adirondacks, and his wife teaches in a local school district.

I never asked him, but he seems to really like upstate NY.

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