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By yankeehack (Tue Apr 29, 2014 at 03:02:18 PM EST) (all tags)
Hello, hello, hello from my couch.

I hope the crew is doing as well as can be. I've missed you all. Sometimes one has to go live in another place in one's head, I think.

Right now, I'm taking advantage of my inability to sit at a desk and chair and slacking off from work. I hurt my back (not a disk injury but the joint between the spine and the pelvis) a few weeks ago in the most mundane of ways, carrying groceries into the house during a hurried bout of weekend errands. I was getting ready to travel to Florida for work that next Monday, but I never made it. I went to Urgent Care the next morning and the Doctor just looked at me when I asked how long it would take..."Weeks" he said. Unfortunately, there is no surgery for this injury, it's rest and heat and PT. Possibly a steroid shot in a few weeks. I can walk and move around, I just can't sit in a vertical chair for too long. As long as my spine is not vertical I am ok. I can't think of a more debilitating injury for me personally, although THANK GOD I work from home.

As my Mother remarked, "You've been working too hard anyway."

And the kicker, I signed up for ACA insurance at the deadline prior to this injury (I was dallying about a high deductible option)...but it doesn't go in effect until the beginning of May. O_o


Anyway, the back isn't the most aggravating part of my life, however, that distinction goes to 16 year old LO, who is in full peak TEENAGERDOM. Boys, driving permits, boys, grades, social life, "Why can't I?" etc. The daily drama here is ridiculous. Most days she leaves the house and says "I love you," which I know she does. It's the other days that are hard, when I am an idiot, I know nothing and all she wants is her driver's license so she can be free.

LO has been going out with a boy from the next state over the past few months. She met him online and had a few friends in common, as it turned out. I have not been exactly thrilled with the boy, as he lives an hour and a half away by the Shore, but anyway, he would come over to our house, spend about 6 hours here every other weekend and go home. He went to LO's dance and she want to his Prom two weeks ago (yes, I drove her with my bad back.) I did not have a problem with her going to the Prom. I bought her $300 dress and drove down and got a hotel room $80 for the night. However, I did have a problem with her going to an after Prom co-ed sleepover at a boy's house. (Aside from the fucked up parents who would allow that, apparently that boy has behavior problems, so I think the parents allowed the sleepover to appease their kid.)

LO argued with me in the weeks prior, then on the night of the prom when the boyfriend's mom was driving them home, she threw a fit. She threw a fit in the hotel room, calling me all sorts of names. The next day, she refused to leave the hotel room after I had "ruined her life" and I had to enlist her boyfriend, her boyfriend's mother and my sister to call her/text her to help. She only left when I called my sister because she was embarassed that my sister heard us fighting. LO did calm down and things got better after that.

This week, she is now fighting with that boyfriend since she was asked by her dorky friend here to the junior prom at the high school. I know those two are just friends (although the dorky boy would love to have any girlfriend). The boyfriend is pissed and won't talk to LO except to tell her not to go to the prom. The prom is this weekend. He is also texting her friends to pressure her not to go to the prom. The boyfriend goes to an all boys school and does not have any opposite sex friends. LO has been hanging out with another boy here who has had a long time crush on her this week...just because why not...although he's been late in getting her home. I've been talking to LO about it, and she still likes the first boyfriend because she has the power (mostly) but not in this argument. 

And all of this is happening as she has to take her AP exam early next week.

This summer will suck until LO goes to camp in mid July for a month. She wanted to go to a medical camp in Boston in late June, but it filled up quick. Her second choice was a sailing camp in the British Virgin Islands (!!!). There are other camps, but she did not want to attend them. I need to ship her off somewhere.

And LO gets her license late next September. It isn't an option for her not to get it as with her school activities. She also has been talking about not doing fall crew next year so her schedule will be a little more open for a part time job. I just hope she breaks up with the boyfriend so she is not driving to Jersey to see him.

At just about LO's age I too was dating someone who was a bit insecure and controlling. I managed to fib to my parents about where I his parents did not care if I was at their house and in his bedroom... and then ended up cutting off my big Jersey hair as fuck you to the ex boyfriend when we broke up. He then managed to stalk and harass me the old fashioned way through my friends and my next boyfriend.


The only other family gossip is that my little sister is pregnant again. Which was a bit earlier than she hoped, but she's happy.

My brother and SiL had their 4th kid a few months ago. It too was also an oops baby. Their nanny quit just weeks before the baby was due (heh) and the replacement nanny is pretty uneducated according to my Dad. Apparently the baby is not gaining weight and SiL is supposedly going back to work soon. But they're buying a million dollar vacation house at the Shore, so don't fret for them too too much, mmkay.

LO and I have not seen my brother's baby. When we saw them briefly over the Xmas holiday, all they asked us was about babysitting. Um, no. Not unless there is a bona fide emergency.


Up until my injury, work has been in stasis with deal negotiations and not closings. Lots of people like us but don't want to use the software just yet. We just signed our first deal this past week. The wheels are starting to crank.


I might or might not be seeing someone. Taking this day by day. At least it's a break from dating for the interim at least.

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On Her Back | 8 comments (8 topical, 0 hidden)
Teenagers by georgeha (4.00 / 1) #1 Tue Apr 29, 2014 at 03:41:45 PM EST
We don't have the boy problems, maybe because in many ways seventeen_year_old is immmature. Like, "I want to play dress up in heavy boots upstairs on a wooden floor after 9 at night" immature.

Next year is settled, it's RIT and a lot of loans in her name. She may be sleeping in a converted lounge as she's been lax in settling her housing. She may miss the cool dorm full of undecided freshman and pot smoke. Her ADD and half assed approach to school only got her 2 out of 4 acceptances.

It doesn't help that her email may be suspended, her laptop probably has a virus, but she won't tell me what's wrong or make time to go through a cleanup.

In her defense, she's been working long hours on the Spring musical.

The twelve year old is a joy.

Our health insurance issues have been due to the company and my wife's doctor's office. They sent out cards late, so she got billed out of network. We're still waiting for the reimbursement. On a later visit the office wouldn't take the cards, we got billed out of network. The Doctor wrote us a check for that difference.

There is a part of me by yankeehack (2.00 / 0) #2 Tue Apr 29, 2014 at 07:13:34 PM EST
that can't wait to have LO pointed to that big ol' highway of "You're 18 now, it's your problem now." in two years.

LO ain't stupid, far from it. She just has this idea in her head of things she should be doing...and is getting upset when things are not going her way.

Congrats about RIT. Does the seventeen year old realize she's actually moving out at some point?
"...she dares to indulge in the secret sport. You can't be a MILF with the F, at least in part because the M is predicated upon it."-CBB

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Oh yeah, thing swill be much better by georgeha (4.00 / 1) #7 Wed Apr 30, 2014 at 07:40:17 AM EST
The reason it's hard to get her up now is because we're here, she knows we'll get her up. On her own, in the dorm, she'll spring out of bed in minutes.

She'll find kindred souls who like to tap dance at 10 at night, won't hog the bathroom, appreciate empty bottles of contact solution covering the sink and just won't hassle her.

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Wowzers. by ammoniacal (2.00 / 0) #3 Tue Apr 29, 2014 at 10:07:13 PM EST
I thought I was edgy back in the day with my adjacent-county gf.

"To this day that was the most bullshit caesar salad I have every experienced..." - triggerfinger

In my day by yankeehack (4.00 / 1) #4 Tue Apr 29, 2014 at 10:19:06 PM EST
both the stalker ex and the boyfriend after that lived in the next town over and attended a rival high school, oh my.

What a PITA this dating a boy far away has been. It sounds like, as of tonight, she is dumping him for the local boy.
"...she dares to indulge in the secret sport. You can't be a MILF with the F, at least in part because the M is predicated upon it."-CBB

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Aaargh, teen drama by TheophileEscargot (4.00 / 2) #5 Wed Apr 30, 2014 at 06:05:14 AM EST
Hopefully it will be easier having a boy. Wonder if I should try to introduce him to D&D or something to cut down on the girl drama though ;-)
It is unlikely that the good of a snail should reside in its shell: so is it likely that the good of a man should?
So you got hit with the Mother's Curse? by wiredog (4.00 / 2) #6 Wed Apr 30, 2014 at 07:27:13 AM EST
"Someday you will have kids and they'll be Just Like You!"

What'r you gonna do when she goes punk and becomes a roadie? ;-)

Earth First!
(We can strip mine the rest later.)

16? by Bob Abooey (4.00 / 1) #8 Fri May 02, 2014 at 12:12:20 PM EST
Jeesus - how die that happen.

Too bad we can't stay 3 forever - now that's a great age!

Warmest regards,
--Your best pal Bob

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