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By Gedvondur (Thu Aug 08, 2013 at 03:56:53 PM EST) (all tags)
I have owed you guys an update on what happened to me….well here it is, part 1 anyway.



Back in late April I became Ill.
 
The prelude to the surgery was scary. If you haven’t had major surgery, it’s a bit intimidating. Lots of folks dressed up like you’d see on House or Grey’s Anatomy. The surgeon, Dr. Whitehair came over by me to talk before they wheeled me into the actual operating room. I was in pre-op with my wife, my father whom we will call Senior for a variety of reasons and a very close family friend named Wild Willie. Wild Willie and his wife have been friends of the family since before I was born. Wild Willie and his wife were unable to have children and my parents always said they would share me with them.  I introduced them as my alternate parents at my wedding and have always considered them to be something of a second set of parents. In pre-op I introduced Dr. Whitehair to them.
 
“This is my father, Senior and my other father, Wild Willie.” I said.

Dr. Whitehair barely skipped a beat, his eyebrows only quirking slightly. I was puzzled at that but no one else said anything. After some chit-chat and discussion of the upcoming surgery, Dr. Whitehair left the room, saying they would be coming to get me in a few minutes.
 
After they left, it dawned upon me that I had just introduced my father and family friend as a gay couple.   Apparently nobody else in the room other than Dr. Whitehair had noticed either. It was funny and released some of the tension that had been building up before the surgery. Soon enough they came to get me. I said my loves and goodbyes and they wheeled me into the chilly environment of the surgery theatre. They transferred me to the surprisingly narrow surgery table and the anesthesiologist injected something into my IV then put a mask over my face. He smiled down at me kindly and asked me to count backwards from 100. The last thing I remember is 98.
 
They tell me they woke me up in recovery to remove the breathing tube. A fortuitous thing about anesthesia is that it messes with memory, especially early on.   I woke up in the recovery room and was soon transferred to a hospital room. Floor 3 North Tower. 3NT. A place that would soon become our home for over a month. My stomach hurt, as to be expected but the Dilaudid they injected into my IV kept it under control. Dilaudid feels like those seconds when you are falling asleep at the wheel and telling yourself not to fall asleep, but then realize it’s too late. Very strange drug, but works well on the pain.
 
They even got me to stand that night. It hurt, but it seemed manageable. The next day I was sore. Very sore. But I walked some and by the end of the day I was even eating and drinking again. The mood was that I was going to be discharged sometime the next day.

The next day the pain woke me up. It was bad and it didn’t get any better. The doctors and nurses thought I was constipated. The anesthesia and painkillers can do that. I was given oral laxatives. Later the pain was so bad that I even got an enema. I hurt so badly I didn’t even care about the indignity of it. The worst part was none of it helped. They kept me in the hospital. My wife knew there was something wrong and began to get aggressive with the doctors and nurses. Finally they did a blood test. My kidneys were shutting down and I had a massive white cell count. I don’t know what would have happened if it wasn’t for my wife. I was in too much pain to understand or push for my own treatment at that point.
A CT scan of my abdomen found a leak in my stomach. They had accidently perforated the remainder of my stomach during the surgery and it had leaked into my abdomen. Full-blown sepsis. For the second time in three days, they wheeled me back into the operating room.

I remember clinging to my wife and crying my eyes out as they took me away. I was delirious with pain, scared and terrified to be going back to surgery. I remember sobbing to her “They can’t do this, they can’t do this” over and over again. The last thing I remember is seeing her next to my father as they wheeled me away.

The next part is going to be the worst, about surgical intensive care and recovery. I’ll have to put it in the next diary which I hope will not take so long to write.

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We're glad you made it. by ana (4.00 / 2) #1 Thu Aug 08, 2013 at 04:03:20 PM EST
I googled up your wife's twitter account, and aphrael kept track of you through her.

I now know what the noise that is usually spelled "lolwhut" sounds like. --Kellnerin

Heh by Gedvondur (4.00 / 1) #18 Fri Aug 09, 2013 at 11:28:51 AM EST
I wondered how Aph found her.  :-)

Believe it or not, it actually was a great comfort to know that you guys were getting information and that you all cared enough to seek her out when I couldn't communicate.  It made me feel a lot better at a time when I was really low.

Thank you all for that.  Sincerely. 

"So I will be hitting the snatch hard, I think, tonight." - gzt
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Oh, man... by iGrrrl (4.00 / 1) #2 Thu Aug 08, 2013 at 05:09:15 PM EST
So glad your wife was aggressive, and that they found it!

"Beautiful wine, talking of scattered everythings"
(and thanks to Scrymarch)

heaven help those by aphrael (4.00 / 2) #7 Fri Aug 09, 2013 at 12:35:05 AM EST
who don't have aggressive medically-knowledgeable spouses to keep the doctors in line.
If television is a babysitter, the internet is a drunk librarian who won't shut up.
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VERY VERY correct by Gedvondur (4.00 / 1) #17 Fri Aug 09, 2013 at 11:26:57 AM EST
The sad truth is that today your medical state is your OWN problem.  The doctors act like they are in charge, but it isn't like it was in the past where they guide you and take a personal interest.  The days of the personal doctor are gone.  You have to make the decisions yourself and know what you are about, or bad things will happen.

Case in point.  Near my discharge from the hospital, they were going to give me an IV, after all of them had been taken out the day before.  When I asked why, they said because it would look better for the insurance company.  Oh, hell no.  Medically unnecessary and stupid.  They were shocked when I said no.

"So I will be hitting the snatch hard, I think, tonight." - gzt
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Hell yes by Gedvondur (4.00 / 1) #16 Fri Aug 09, 2013 at 11:23:02 AM EST
My wife is my rock.  She pushed them.  I think they would have figured it out eventually, especially since my kidneys shut down, but she saved hours and hours which could have been the difference.  I nearly died the way it was, I shudder to think what would have happened if she hadn't been there, my odds would have been much worse.

"So I will be hitting the snatch hard, I think, tonight." - gzt
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It's a good start by Herring (4.00 / 8) #3 Thu Aug 08, 2013 at 06:05:57 PM EST
but it needs more lesbian vampires.

Good to have you back.

christ, we're all old now - StackyMcRacky

Just wait for Part 2 by Gedvondur (4.00 / 1) #15 Fri Aug 09, 2013 at 11:20:58 AM EST
Lesbian vampires galore!  :-)

"So I will be hitting the snatch hard, I think, tonight." - gzt
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And fish [enty] by ReallyEvilCanine (4.00 / 2) #21 Sun Aug 11, 2013 at 11:38:07 AM EST

the internet: amplifier of stupidity -- discordia

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Holy crap! by atreides (4.00 / 1) #4 Thu Aug 08, 2013 at 06:14:13 PM EST
Dude! I hope it's all going better now... :(

He sails from world to world in a flying tomb, serving gods who eat hope.

Yes by Gedvondur (2.00 / 0) #14 Fri Aug 09, 2013 at 11:20:14 AM EST
Things are slowly getting better.  It takes longer than I would like or can easily accept, but it is getting better. 

"So I will be hitting the snatch hard, I think, tonight." - gzt
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seepsis in the abdominal area .. by sasquatchan (4.00 / 1) #5 Thu Aug 08, 2013 at 10:18:17 PM EST
oh man, aunt went through that .. Do you have a mesh in your abdominal wall now to hold everything (ie your guts) together ? (I hope not ... )

Nope by Gedvondur (2.00 / 0) #13 Fri Aug 09, 2013 at 11:19:23 AM EST
The tear in my diaphragm was four inches long, but the surgeon said it stitched up wonderfully, so no mesh was needed.  Both the surgeries were lathroscopic, so I didn't have a lot of damage to the muscle wall of my abdomen, which is the leading cause for the need to mesh...

"So I will be hitting the snatch hard, I think, tonight." - gzt
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Yikes! by technician (4.00 / 1) #6 Thu Aug 08, 2013 at 10:28:23 PM EST
Glad you're here to write about it, but it's a damn shame that you had to go through it.

Heh by Gedvondur (2.00 / 0) #12 Fri Aug 09, 2013 at 11:17:19 AM EST
I'm glad too.  Writing about it helps.  Part 2 is the section I will have the hardest time with. 

"So I will be hitting the snatch hard, I think, tonight." - gzt
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Glad you're back by kwsNI (4.00 / 1) #8 Fri Aug 09, 2013 at 10:13:18 AM EST
Surgery sucks.  Emergency surgery doubly sucks. 

Yes indeed by Gedvondur (4.00 / 1) #10 Fri Aug 09, 2013 at 11:14:31 AM EST
It sucked hard.  I'm glad to be back too.

"So I will be hitting the snatch hard, I think, tonight." - gzt
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I went through something broadly similar in 2002 by ambrosen (4.00 / 1) #9 Fri Aug 09, 2013 at 10:52:23 AM EST
So believe me, I know how earth shattering it is. Keep strong in your recovery, and take it easy on yourself.

Wow by Gedvondur (4.00 / 1) #11 Fri Aug 09, 2013 at 11:16:23 AM EST
I didn't know that, I'm sorry you went through it too.

I'm doing all I can with my recovery.  It's been a challenge, especially with the changes to my diet. 

"So I will be hitting the snatch hard, I think, tonight." - gzt
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Jesus by motty (4.00 / 1) #19 Fri Aug 09, 2013 at 10:16:58 PM EST
It's good to be hearing from you.

I amd itn ecaptiaghle of drinking sthis d dar - Dr T
He's not the messiah by Herring (2.00 / 0) #23 Sun Aug 11, 2013 at 11:58:38 AM EST
etc.

christ, we're all old now - StackyMcRacky
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Holy Cow by johnny (4.00 / 2) #20 Sat Aug 10, 2013 at 08:23:09 AM EST
Please say thank you to your wife for me. Also, thanks for writing. Also for not, you know, dying.

She has effectively checked out. She's an un-person of her own making. So it falls to me.--ad hoc (in the hole)
Holy Halibut! by ReallyEvilCanine (4.00 / 1) #22 Sun Aug 11, 2013 at 11:45:48 AM EST
I'm away for a few months and all this shit unfolds. I'm really... erm, surprised, taken aback, glad you're alive, unsurprised by medical fuck-ups, glad you're still here, gladder you're posting, hoping you're well[er], jealous of your Dilaudid supply, relieved that others managed to keep up contacts, hopeful for recovery, etc, ipso facto, de gustibus, et cetera, no serviam---.

hollaback.

the internet: amplifier of stupidity -- discordia

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