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By wiredog (Tue Dec 18, 2012 at 08:39:49 AM EST) (all tags)
Got a call from Dad. Usually not a good sign, as he only calls unexpectedly if there's a Problem.

There is a Problem...



He turned 84 in October. I call him every week or so and we chat for half an hour or so. So last night I'm driving to my regular Monday night AA meeting and the phone rings. It's Dad. He hadn't told me this, because he didn't want me to worry, but he came down with shingles (adult version of chicken pox, a herpes virus) week before last. His left eye (his good eye) got infected. Being Dad, he didn't bother going to a doctor for several days.

The doctor says his vision should recover. He's on acyclovir and 4 different eye drops. I was already flying out there this Thursday for Christmas. I hope he'll get use out of the present I got him: Photoshop Elements 11 and an O'Reilly book on how to use it.

I hope. He's 84. He lives in a small town in southern Utah with no public transportation, or even taxis, and is thus completely dependent on neighbors and church friends to get around, unless his vision comes back. He's not very good at taking care of himself, through (thankfully) not really having had to until now. He lives pretty much on the other side of the country from me, so there's not much I can do.

Lots of worries wrapped up in this situation.

Surprisingly, I slept a solid 8 hours last night.

Merry Christmas.

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At least he's got neighbors and the church by georgeha (2.00 / 0) #1 Tue Dec 18, 2012 at 05:38:02 PM EST
and really, what can you do from 2000 miles away?


Can't do a damn thing by wiredog (2.00 / 0) #4 Wed Dec 19, 2012 at 08:20:33 AM EST
Except worry...

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Caregivers by yankeehack (2.00 / 0) #2 Tue Dec 18, 2012 at 08:05:09 PM EST
When you are out there, can you see if there is a dependable person or paid caregiver type who can be his fallback if friends can't help?
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Going to look into that. by wiredog (2.00 / 0) #5 Wed Dec 19, 2012 at 08:21:26 AM EST
Talk to the preacher at his church, see if he has any ideas.

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Oh, man, that's hard. by toxicfur (4.00 / 1) #3 Tue Dec 18, 2012 at 08:59:41 PM EST
Particularly if he's resistent to people (like medical professionals) helping him. My thoughts are with you - I know this must be weighing on you a lot.
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It's not that he's resistant, so much. by wiredog (4.00 / 2) #6 Wed Dec 19, 2012 at 08:28:47 AM EST
Just that he doesn't want to be, and waits until he thinks he really needs the help. And since he generally has been in very good health, he doesn't realize when he needs help. At least when he's sick. Injuries he gets looked at right away.

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