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By jaxom green (Wed Sep 03, 2008 at 09:47:14 AM EST) fuck cancer (all tags)
My mother in law is still alive, but that could change soon.  Her cancer is spreading.  Just the other day they found 4 new hot spots and that was in a localized MRI.  She's very weak and had a scare with sepsis a month ago.  Her port got infected and she spent time in the ICU before recovering.  My father in law can be a giant asshole sometimes but it's clear he's suffering and doesn't know how to deal with the situation.


At least he's admitted he doesn't know how to cope.  He still hasn't gotten the help I know he'll need but I think he'll get it when it's time.  I was amazed the other day when he admitted to me that his upbringing didn't prepare him for having a family that cared about each other and supported one another.

At least my wife and her brother are getting along very well.  All of them know what is coming but each of them deal with the grief in such drastically different ways.  My wife is concerned that her mother will suffer even more before passing and will get to a point where she can't be coherent.

The only joy I've found in 2008 is my sons.  They are just getting better and better.  During vacation last month we took the kids camping on the outer Cape.  We got a Oversand sticker and drove out to Hatches Harbor on Race Point just about every day.   I had more fun playing with the kids in the sand and water that I've had in a long time.  It was awesome seeing the boys become so comfortable in the water.  They swam in water over their heads, jumped off boats and body surfed the waves.  I'm now looking into getting a boat for next summer so I can take the kids gunkholing around the Cape.

It's barely September and I'm already looking forward to next year.  My mother in laws pain should be over by then and I can begin helping my wife move beyond 2008.


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Provincetown... by ana (4.00 / 2) #1 Wed Sep 03, 2008 at 09:57:10 AM EST
is wonderful.

And there's nothing good, or even decent, to say about cancer. May she go when it's her time, with minimal unnecessary pain. And may light perpetual shine upon her. It's true what you say about grief being such an individual thing. It'll keep on being that way, sneaking up on people when they least expect it, and when they most expect it.

You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers.

"And this ... is a piece of Synergy." --Kellnerin

I'm so sorry by ObviousTroll (4.00 / 2) #2 Wed Sep 03, 2008 at 10:52:15 AM EST
I've been through this with my father and I know how hard it is waiting and hoping, even though the hope is stupid.

Take joy in your sons, and find peace where you can.



Thought for the day: Some people are like slinkies - Not really good for anything but they bring a smile to your face when you push them down the stairs.
Peace by ammoniacal (4.00 / 1) #3 Thu Sep 04, 2008 at 09:59:14 AM EST
We all could use it. Good luck, my friend.

"To this day that was the most bullshit caesar salad I have every experienced..." - triggerfinger

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