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By atreides (Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 01:09:05 AM EST) (all tags)

"REALLY FUCKIN' GREAT! YOU SEND YOUR AUNT AN INVITATION BEFORE YOU SEND ONE ME! THAT'S THE PROBLEM WITH YOU AND THAT WOMAN. YOU AIN'T GOT NO FUCKING RESPECT!"

You know, a call from my mother is rarely a good thing. So, Welsh Girl and I mailed out our invitations on Friday. By Saturday, they got to at least some of my friends here in Austin. By today (Monday), it got to my aunt on Colorado. Apparently, it didn't get to my mother in North Austin. So she called.

So, I called her back and left a message since she was too chickenshit to pick up the phone. I gave her a simple choice: either shut up, be happy for us and come celebrate my wedding that I am paying for and not you or bitch all you want and don't come but either way I'm not putting up with your bullshit. And because I didn't think she'd get the message that I'm serious, I called my aunt in Colorado and asked her to communicate the same basic thought to her.

So, a couple of hours later, Mom called me back. To paraphrase: since you don't treat me like your mother and run off to your aunt like she's your mother, then I can play that game, too so I'm not gonna come!

Woo HOO!!!! Oh happy day! Callou! Callay! I couldn't have planned this better! I was dreading the idea of her coming and she's decided not to come! Awesome! Because I have no intention kissing her ass to keep her happy! YEAH!!!

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I see a lifetime of passive-aggressive by muchagecko (4.00 / 3) #1 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 02:04:10 AM EST

shit over this issue.

"It means more if you have to earn it, even if it's by doing something as simple as eating a meal." Kellnerin

Probably by Merekat (4.00 / 4) #4 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 04:12:37 AM EST

Though I get the impression it is only the latest in the lifetime to date and probably won't qualitatively cause the situation deteriorate, even if it adds to quantity.

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This will be the big one. by muchagecko (2.00 / 0) #15 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 09:45:23 AM EST

Every issue is going to get tied to 'you didn't want me at your wedding'.

I've seen this before.

"It means more if you have to earn it, even if it's by doing something as simple as eating a meal." Kellnerin
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Probably true by Merekat (4.00 / 1) #18 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 09:55:46 AM EST

But there is no reasoning with someone in that state of mind so they may as well let it wash over them.

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passive aggression by ucblockhead (2.00 / 0) #23 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 12:00:55 PM EST

People always find issues to be pissed off about if they want to be pissed off. Trying to prevent it just makes things worse.
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: Agreed. by muchagecko (4.00 / 1) #25 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 12:42:39 PM EST

I work with one. Best way to deal with her is to stay away as much as possible.

"It means more if you have to earn it, even if it's by doing something as simple as eating a meal." Kellnerin
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I see a life time of passive aggressive shit by ObviousTroll (4.00 / 3) #8 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 08:55:50 AM EST

already going down.

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Has anybody seen my clue? I know I had it when I came in here.
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: Without a doubt. by muchagecko (2.00 / 0) #17 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 09:47:44 AM EST

This could have been the linchpin.

"It means more if you have to earn it, even if it's by doing something as simple as eating a meal." Kellnerin
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For whom? by ammoniacal (2.00 / 0) #13 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 09:35:20 AM EST

Everyone involved?

This coomenat has be n soidnsord by hurricanbe ice malt liqur
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This by ammoniacal (4.00 / 2) #2 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 02:19:52 AM EST

is a really strange juxtaposition with toxicfur's diaries.

This coomenat has be n soidnsord by hurricanbe ice malt liqur

Nah by Phage (4.00 / 4) #3 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 03:52:43 AM EST

Mothers have infinite variety. Unique snowflakes etc etc.

The Czar of Accounting. No Nit Too Small To Pick
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Relationships with parents -- by toxicfur (4.00 / 4) #10 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 09:01:55 AM EST

I was very close to my mom, but my relationship with my father was toxic. Therefore, I no longer have a relationship with him. He wasn't told of my mom's death; he wasn't told of the birth of my brother's child. If any of us ever saw him again, it would be too soon.
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If you don't get a Bonnie, my universe will not make sense. --blixco
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fathers by ucblockhead (4.00 / 2) #24 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 12:03:37 PM EST

When my sister and I went to my stepmother's funeral, there was some indication that my father might show up, but he turned out to be too gutless and stayed home. It was almost certainly the last chance for either of us to ever run into him in any situation.

Almost certainly not as bad as your dad, though.
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: Sounds like my father-in-law by skippy (4.00 / 1) #26 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 01:39:32 PM EST

He had moved in his "new" girlfriend about 2 months after my mother-in-law had died, and they were married about 4 months after that. The lifetime of shit he had dumped onto my brother-in-law caused him to commit suicide a few months later - the message recorded onto his phone was, "I don't want to become like dad."
After the F-I-L showed up in town and tried to ruin a lot of the funeral plans, he skipped out the night before the funeral. Probably just as well, since there were a lot of my B-I-L's friends who would have kicked the guy's ass had he shown up.
This year the asshole sent my wife a very unwanted and unwelcome Christmas present. A week later he emailed her work asking why he hadn't received any thanks...

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I bet she she shows up anyway by lm (4.00 / 4) #5 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 06:53:51 AM EST

Any takers?

There is no more degenerate kind of state than that in which the richest are supposed to be the best.
Cicero, The Republic

: Not me by kwsNI (4.00 / 2) #7 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 08:13:15 AM EST

Gotta wonder how many weddings have been crashed by parents over history.

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: I'm with you . . . by slozo (4.00 / 1) #9 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 08:56:24 AM EST

. . . guessing she caves last minute, when she realises her son isn't begging her to come. She'll show up, no big scene though . . . you'd hope.

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As a side note by riceowlguy (4.00 / 2) #6 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 07:22:50 AM EST

it wasn't until I got your invite that I realized that I'd never known either of your last names.

they should have made special invites by StackyMcRacky (2.00 / 0) #19 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 10:37:50 AM EST

for the HuSi crowd. "Welsh Girl and atreides" on the invite wouldn't have made me go "huh?" for 10 seconds.

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: I wanted to! by atreides (2.00 / 0) #22 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 10:58:18 AM EST

I wanted to put handles on the invites instead of names! But NOOOOOO! Welsh Girl made my be all formal and crap... Grrr...
_{He sails from world to world in a flying tomb, serving gods who eat hope.}
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Your Mom = teh drama queen. by vorheesleatherface (2.00 / 0) #11 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 09:06:16 AM EST

I sympathize.

"Of course. I goatse my MP once a week!" - Hulver

OH NOES! by atreides (4.00 / 2) #16 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 09:45:41 AM EST

The Drama Llama gave birth to me!

_{He sails from world to world in a flying tomb, serving gods who eat hope.}
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: Omigosh. by vorheesleatherface (2.00 / 0) #21 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 10:46:21 AM EST

Is your woman making you wear The Bridle during the cerimony?
Yeah, I went there.

"Of course. I goatse my MP once a week!" - Hulver
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ours came yesterday by webwench (4.00 / 3) #12 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 09:18:43 AM EST

:D

And heck with your mom, who just wants to make it all about her. She needs to be reminded that this day is most definitely NOT about her, and she can fall in line or STFU.

^{Getting more attention than you since 1998.}

I have already referred her to St. Fu... by atreides (4.00 / 1) #14 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 09:44:56 AM EST

...patron saint of ninjas. But not 10 minutes ago, she actually called to apologize. She didn't actually say she was sorry, but she apologized as best as she was capable. Which means I probably have to let her come. Damn...

_{He sails from world to world in a flying tomb, serving gods who eat hope.}
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: No y'don't. [nt] by vorheesleatherface (2.00 / 0) #20 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 10:44:18 AM EST

"Of course. I goatse my MP once a week!" - Hulver
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super! by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #27 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 06:34:34 PM EST

we're gonna try, but with this "about to have a mortgage" thing we're not sure if we can afford to.
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if de-virgination results in me being able to birth hammerhead sharks, SIGN ME UP!!! --misslake

If you can, you can... by atreides (2.00 / 0) #28 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 06:42:38 PM EST

...if you can't, you can't, but either way, I'm thinking of you guys. :)

_{He sails from world to world in a flying tomb, serving gods who eat hope.}
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: at ours by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #30 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 06:53:56 PM EST

i wanted to toast the Emperor, but very few people there would have gotten it.
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if de-virgination results in me being able to birth hammerhead sharks, SIGN ME UP!!! --misslake
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hmmmm by dev trash (2.00 / 0) #29 Tue Feb 05, 2008 at 06:52:52 PM EST

So the inefficiencies of the Postal System finally worked out for ya.

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