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By Dr H0ffm4n (Wed Dec 31, 2008 at 01:12:53 AM EST) (all tags)
You have been my least favourite year and I will not miss you. I wish we had never met. But still, I do not want you to go.

Below the fold I list some events of note in my life this year. And some that are not of much note by comparison. The events of June tend to dominate the year.



January
  • I take the midgets (& WPKAW?) to visit my parents for a weekend
  • A Scottish friend flies through London and we get drunk together, reliving old times. WPKAW is in a mood when I get home and we have a blazing row.
February
  • WPKAW and I go to the wedding of two of WPKAW's old Kiwi friends in Yorkshire. Much booze is consumed and we have a fine time. I have the best picture of the two of us dancing and laughing together.
  • WPKAW and I go to the 42nd birthday party of WPKAW's eldest brother in Fulham.
  • WPKAW and I go to the 40th birthday party of WPKAW's middle brother (of three) in Edinburgh. WPKAW is actually beginning to get on with all of her brothers after breaking links to her parents in the previous November.
  • WPKAW's mother turns 60. WPKAW doesn't even send her a card. They used to be best friends.
March
  • Major Midget performs at the Albert Hall. WPKAW, MoM and Minor Midget proudly attend.
  • Minor Midget turns 10. WPKAW and I host a sleepover party for her friends. I am surprised at WPKAW's patience with the mischevious children.
  • I take WPKAW to dinner at Jamie Oliver's restaurant, 15. WKPAW is exstatic and keeps the menu for posterity.
April
  • School Easter holidays seems to be the only notable event.
  • Unless you count going for a curry.
May
  • WPKAW and I have dinner with WPKAW's eldest brother and her two cousins. It is the last time any of them will see her alive.
  • WPKAW and I vacation for a week in Kephalonia. WPKAW does scuba diving for the first time. It's something she has always wanted to do and it is one of the best days of her life.
June
  • WPKAW starts cycling to work as part of a new keep fit regime.
  • It is the fifth anniversary of WPKAW and I meeting and starting to date.
  • Major Midget turns 13. We go to see Phantom of the Opera (the midgets, WPKAW, MoM and myself). WPKAW shares a lobster with Minor Midget at Belgos. Major Midget tells WPKAW that she loves her for the first time ever.
  • Two days later, WPKAW is dead. I manage to see her briefly in hospital before she dies. I manage to see her briefly twice afterwards too.
July
  • WPKAW had arranged a surprise weekend in Paris for my birthday. Instead, I spend my birthday in Surrey, arranging WPKAW's funeral.
  • WPKAW's funeral is a small, family affair out at Guildford Crematorium. A church in the City of London holds a small service at the same time for friends and workmates.
  • WPKAW's friends from Yorkshire come and stay at our house for a weekend late in July, as WPKAW had planned with them before she died.
August
  • WPKAW's parents hold a memorial service in their local church in the small village in Wales in which they live. I cry for an hour solid all the way through.
  • I spend an obsessive amount of time planning for a thanksgiving service for WPKAW.
  • Midgets perform in an AmDram version of Hairspray - one of WPKAW's favourite musicals.
  • I take the midgets away to Sicily for a week. Without any distractions, my nerves constantly feel like they are climbing out through my skin.
September
  • WPKAW's thanksgiving service is held in London for her friends and workmates. It is the culmination of 12 weeks of obsessive preparation.
  • I am now without anything to obsess about.
  • I get in touch with TWEG for the first time in 4 years. We see each other for drinks and dinner from time to time over the next few months and she makes things seem brighter.
October
  • WPKAW's sister turns 30. I take the midgets to Wales to help celebrate.
  • WPKAW's parent's dedicate their latest play to their daughter. I take the midgets to Wales to support them.
  • I buy WPKAW flowers for her 33rd birthday. I spend the day at home reading to her.
November
  • Attend the wedding of WPKAW's best friend. WPKAW was to be a bridesmaid. The midgets go with me for support.
  • My social life is very busy and I'm being gragged out most nights of the week. I feel fatigued most days as a result.
December
  • I go and stay in Yorkshire with the Kiwi couple of WPKAW's friends who got married in February. Others of WPKAW's friends from the north stay over too.
  • MoM's mother comes to see the midgets for a day. The first time she's seen her grandchildren in over three years.
  • I get locked in the pub with Landlady after a leaving drinks from work. I'm told that Landlady seems to have taken quite a shine to me on the couple of times we've been to the pub since. I wonder quite how a relationship with someone who works 24/7 might work.
  • TWEG manages to accidentally verbally assault WPKAW's memory. We've not spoken for over two weeks now.
  • I survive Jebusmas but get my first cold of the year and feel like crap.
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What a year by kwsNI (4.00 / 1) #1 Wed Dec 31, 2008 at 04:44:15 AM EST
Hope that cold feels better soon. 

Lager > lemsip by Dr H0ffm4n (2.00 / 0) #5 Wed Dec 31, 2008 at 11:21:45 AM EST
IMHO

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That's a year and a half. by ambrosen (4.00 / 2) #2 Wed Dec 31, 2008 at 07:00:45 AM EST
Mine's a) nothing like as bad and b) actually a step up from several previous years. But still, 2009's got promise.

As for TWEG, I was thinking about it earlier (no idea how my train of thought came to it, and rest assured that it's not a case of me being too interested in your life), and unintentional or not, it's got to indicate that she's comparing herself to WPKAW. So, given a) it's a vacuous comparison to make and b) it's a situation where comparison is about as unhelpful as it gets for all concerned, I'd keep with the not talking to her.

Here's hoping 2009's good for you.

Fuck 2008 by johnny (4.00 / 2) #3 Wed Dec 31, 2008 at 07:17:16 AM EST
My sincere condolences. Your grief is palpable all the way over here.

This year I lost a brother and a sister and a dear friend much too young, and I've been out of work and may lose my house, and other members of my family have been very ill, including dear wife, and the whole fucking year has just been crap from A to Z.

Best wishes to you. And all.
Buy my books, dammit!

shit by Dr H0ffm4n (4.00 / 2) #6 Wed Dec 31, 2008 at 11:28:39 AM EST
We're still not the worse off. We have to live by what we have today and not what we've lost.

Or summat.

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with you in rhinovirus soludarity by iGrrrl (4.00 / 1) #4 Wed Dec 31, 2008 at 07:32:55 AM EST
 Hope your cold gets better, too. Been a hell of a year for you.

"Beautiful wine, talking of scattered everythings"
(and thanks to Scrymarch)

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