Now my friend is going through some tough times right now.  I'm not sure if I have mentioned it here or not, but her husband has esophageal cancer and has just a short time to live.  Her problems are HUGE in comparison to mine.  Anyway, she called me this afternoon just to talk.  She didn't want me to ask about her, she just wanted to know what is going on in my life.  I understand. She doesn't want to rehash what is going on in her life.  She asked me what is going on in my world.  I told her pretty much everything that is going on...posting my resume on-line, and how I feel both happy and unsure about moving home.  Just basic stuff.  It felt wonderful to be able to talk about me. She reprimanded me for not calling her to just talk...even about my every day life problems or joys.  I have to admit it was nice to talk to a friend who actually wanted to hear what I had to say.  I'm normally the one who listens to others.  To be honest, that is what I expected to happen when I heard her voice.  How refreshing.  She has always been my best friends for talking things out.  It is a give and take relationship.  I've just not been calling her to talk.  I didn't think she needed the extra stress.  Apparently I'm wrong...she wants to hear from me.