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By ana (Wed Jan 16, 2008 at 05:43:17 PM EST) (all tags)
Not much to say. Holding pattern. Which is good news, considering.


Nothing much to report. We brought tf-mom home on Friday with a stent in her belly. The visiting nurse has come twice now, on Monday and again today, to drain off fluids. Blood pressure numbers are all over the (hypo-) map, often quite low just after having fluid drained. And today, tf-mom is nauseated again. We hope that having a half liter or so of fluid drawn off will help with that.

The various tf-brothers have been dropping by to spell her from time to time, as their work schedules permit. Tonight, after making chicken and rice from the chicken that's been thawing since yesterday, I think we're probably going to the bar in Burgaw, NC. Since J is here and can spend the evening.

Brother P, who lives there, was poking fun at people who pronounce it burGAW. "Sounds like a bird call," he says, and demonstrates. Standing on the sidewalk in front of the hospice center, well after dark. So I gather it's BURgaw.

Anyway, the bar. The guy has like 80 beers on his list, and constantly changes them out for new ones. The deal is, if he recommends a beer and you don't like it, it's on him. He's gotten a bunch of NC rednecks (including P) to try fancy imported beers, and turned some of them into rather knowledgeable beer snobs. Color me amused.

I managed 3-4 hours worth of work the last couple days, getting some stuff done for a progress meeting today. I didn't feel I could call in, because tying up the phone for a couple hours might be bad. But I posted some results on the wiki, for people to peruse. I haven't heard anything since the meeting; I'll check with the chair tomorrow.

I have another 2.5 weeks' leave saved up, so I don't have to decide anything anytime soon. And toxicfur seems to like having me around, though it feels like I'm not doing much (take out the trash; buy a few groceries; pick up the mud the puppy tracks in; throw tennis balls for the dog). A neighbor gathered up our bills and sent them to us in a Priority Mail envelope, so we can pay them (including the bill for toxicfur's new macbook). So we're kinda sorta keeping up.

And we missed 6-8 inches of snow on Monday. Which makes me happy.

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not even an hour ago... by clock (4.00 / 2) #1 Wed Jan 16, 2008 at 06:58:47 PM EST
...we were prepping dinner and wondering about you folks (i refuse to say y'all...i'll live in texas, but i don't have to talk like it).  no news and all that, but still, it's good to know you're hanging in.  things like taking out the trash shouldn't be underestimated.

keep your energy and spirits as up as you can.  and do let us know how you are when time permits.  we're thinking about you.


Clock is right. [nt] --vorheesleatherface



Wednesday it is by iGrrrl (4.00 / 2) #2 Wed Jan 16, 2008 at 08:15:18 PM EST
I cannot tell you how much I missed tf in the office today, especially because I couldn't share the lolcats joy.

"I don't have time for martial law, I have to get to the gym!" zarathus


No News is Good News. by ammoniacal (4.00 / 2) #3 Wed Jan 16, 2008 at 08:39:59 PM EST
Y'all.

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I agree with clock by Kellnerin (4.00 / 2) #4 Wed Jan 16, 2008 at 08:50:50 PM EST
Mundane things like trash and bills and stuff are no less necessary, and become much more significant when one's capacity to handle stuff is already being taxed. I'm sure you're doing tox a world of good, in all those ways and more.

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"Late to the party" is the new "ahead of the curve" -- CRwM


Not doing much? by Lady Jane (4.00 / 2) #5 Wed Jan 16, 2008 at 09:36:00 PM EST
Speaking from semi-personal experience (I haven't lost a parent, but have spent weeks in the hospital letting go of my brother) I can tell you that just your presence is everything.  Just being there for her, just knowing you are there, is everything.

I've thought to write this before, but hate dropping personal experiences in other people's diaries.  When I lost my brother I was alone.  My parents had each other, my sisters had their husbands.  I just sat there.  It was the most excruciating experience of my life.  My brothers-in-law were useless in the sense that there was nothing for them to do.  Yet they were the glue that held my sisters together.  They were the pillars of strength, the tie to reality, to life, to love, to the knowledge that there will be life after this.

I imagine you are the same for toxicfur, and I am so glad for her that she has you there with her.

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Yes. by toxicfur (4.00 / 2) #6 Wed Jan 16, 2008 at 09:41:56 PM EST
Exactly. This would be so much harder without ana. I don't think I can explain enough that what I really need? It's just to not be alone when all of this is happening. The bills, the trash, the dirt the dog tracked in -- all those things are great, but what I really need is a witness to my grief, and someone to be here in case I completely lose the plot.

Don't feel bad about personal stuff--as I've said in my diaries, hearing other people's experiences is helpful. And I'm so sorry you were alone. I can't even begin to imagine what you went through.
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*happy thoughts* by jared (4.00 / 2) #7 Wed Jan 16, 2008 at 09:49:29 PM EST
Thanks to you and tf for the updates.  I'm glad that her mother seems to be more comfortable now than she has been.

Best of luck to all of you...  hugs



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