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By Phil the Canuck (Mon Sep 17, 2007 at 07:59:38 PM EST) (all tags)
Death inside.


My mother died Saturday morning. She had been in the hospital since Wednesday, and she seemed to be recovering.

The backstory is that she's been sick for quite a while. Not terminally sick, but sick enough that she hadn't been herself in some time and had been admitted to various hostpitals on a somewhat regular basis. She had, along with my stepfather, taken to not telling me about these hospital visits. I assume it was to keep me from worrying. Sometimes I found out through my brother, sometimes my sister, and sometimes I called while she was in there and my stepfather spilled the beans. I'm sure there were plenty of times that I just didn't know.

So she was in the hospital, and since everything seemed to be going smoothly I was left unaware.

It seems she had a bad fall down the stairs. She was given painkillers (Tylenol 3). One night, she took way too many of them. It's impossible to know why, at least for certain. She was not even remotely suicidal. What evidence exists seems to indicate that she repeatedly took the maximum dose and went to bed, waking up shortly after still in pain and no memory of taking her last dose. She did the natural thing and took her painkillers, thinking she hadn't had any all night. By the time my stepfather woke up and realized what was going on she'd taken, well, a lot of them.

She was admitted to hospital, and while she seemed to be recovering, the huge dose of acetaminophen was too much for her liver and it shut down.

I used my temporary travel document to go see her in the summer, and I'm sure glad I did. I had spent much of last week thinking that I should call her so the kids could tell her all about their teachers. That was pretty typical for us, to spend a few days thinking we should be calling someone before actually getting around to doing it. It wouldn't have changed much, since she would have been in the hospital anyway.

I miss you mom.

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I'm sorry for your loss (nt) by ucblockhead (4.00 / 4) #1 Mon Sep 17, 2007 at 08:01:52 PM EST

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Wow that sucks by georgeha (4.00 / 1) #2 Mon Sep 17, 2007 at 08:12:18 PM EST
Do you have enough leeway wrt INS to get to her funeral?





Things have changed by Phil the Canuck (4.00 / 1) #16 Tue Sep 18, 2007 at 09:14:22 AM EST
I have my green card now, so no issues. I've already been over to plan the service.

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I have no words that will make you feel better by BelatuCadros (4.00 / 2) #3 Mon Sep 17, 2007 at 08:23:31 PM EST
I wish I did. My condolences.



i can only bid you peace. by clock (4.00 / 2) #4 Mon Sep 17, 2007 at 08:34:07 PM EST
i'm so sorry for your loss.


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I'm so sorry by StackyMcRacky (4.00 / 2) #5 Mon Sep 17, 2007 at 08:36:27 PM EST




I wish you and your family by yankeehack (4.00 / 2) #6 Mon Sep 17, 2007 at 08:48:49 PM EST
peace and strength. How is your Dad doing?
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(stepdad) by Phil the Canuck (4.00 / 1) #17 Tue Sep 18, 2007 at 09:18:11 AM EST
He was still in shock when I left for Buffalo on Sunday afternoon. I am quite worried about him. He has a history of depression, and mom was always the homemaker. When she went away or was in the hospital he'd live on take out food and junk. On top of all that, I think he feels responsible for not doing enough to keep her out of the meds. I know how easy it is in that situation to beat yourself with the guilt stick.

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acetomiaphen OD is a bad way to go by discordia (2.00 / 0) #7 Mon Sep 17, 2007 at 08:55:24 PM EST
not that you're thinking about this now, but there may have been medical misconduct in letting her have self-dosage access if she wasn't capable of making medical decisions for herself.

thats what nurses are for.



Sorry to hear about it. by ana (4.00 / 2) #8 Mon Sep 17, 2007 at 08:59:01 PM EST
But it's a good thing you got to see her this summer. We're thinking about you.

Power up your flaming yo-yos already! --StackyMcRacky


*hug* by duxup (4.00 / 2) #9 Mon Sep 17, 2007 at 09:00:42 PM EST
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many hugs by LilFlightTest (4.00 / 1) #10 Mon Sep 17, 2007 at 09:14:14 PM EST
loss sucks.
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There are never the right words. by blixco (4.00 / 2) #11 Mon Sep 17, 2007 at 09:40:04 PM EST

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Condolences by fencepost (4.00 / 2) #12 Mon Sep 17, 2007 at 10:06:17 PM EST




Sorry to hear that [nt] by TheophileEscargot (4.00 / 1) #13 Tue Sep 18, 2007 at 02:03:58 AM EST

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Sorry for your loss. by hulver (4.00 / 2) #14 Tue Sep 18, 2007 at 02:14:47 AM EST

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Condolences. (nt) by slozo (4.00 / 2) #15 Tue Sep 18, 2007 at 08:20:40 AM EST




My sympathies by Gedvondur (4.00 / 1) #18 Tue Sep 18, 2007 at 10:52:12 AM EST
My thoughts are with you and yours.

Gedvondur
"It is virtually impossible to effectively aim a jellyfish, a creature created by God almost solely for the purpose of not flying."- CRwM


Im sorry... by reza (2.00 / 0) #19 Fri Sep 21, 2007 at 09:52:09 PM EST
...for your loss.  You and your family are in many thoughts and prayers.


" Be who you are and say how you feel, because those who mind do not matter, and those who matter do not mind!" Dr. Seuss


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