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By StackyMcRacky (Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 06:25:48 AM EST) (all tags)
time flies


So.  Pregnant.  Wow.

I never imagined we'd hit the mark this quickly.  Since I've been on the pill for 10 years, I honestly thought it would take months to get me knocked up.  Don't get me wrong, I'm very excited!  It's just kind of surreal.

So far, being pregnant isn't very much fun.  I'm cold, tired, and have a teenage complexion once again.  Even when the weather is great, I'm cold.  It seems all my energy is too busy with the oil, pus, and baby production to both with keeping me warm.  And hell, we could be finished with the mid-east for good if we found a way to harvest the oil my skin is producing right now.  Yuck. 

I keep cycling through all the usual anxieties as well.  What if I'm a terrible mother?  What if I do something that causes me to miscarry?  What if my mother never leaves me alone?  OMG, our lives will never be the same again!  Etc.

The biggest anxiety is money.  I know we'll get things figured out in time, but looking at the numbers freaks me the hell out right now.  As it currently stands, we could not afford to live on a single paycheck.  The reason: the stupid divorce settlement.  If it were reduced from $1k/mo. to $500/mo. we could easily scrape by.  Like I said before, we'll get it figured out, but until then the numbers stress me out.

We analyzed our spending and have started making cuts.  Beginning tomorrow, I will be taking the bus to the train to the shuttle.  This changes my commute from 35 mins to 1hr 15 mins, but total savings will be around $250/mo!  (note: part of the savings comes from clock taking my car to work - 47mpg, baby!)  We've also found a few ways to save more on groceries.  The plan is to throw as much money into savings as possible right now, so we can at least have a nice cushion.

Feh.

In other news, the holiday was good.  I got some nice gifts for both xmas and my birthday.  I am now the owner of 10,000 napkins.  Let me know if you need to borrow a set or 10.

My newphew is way cute.  He's also quite a giant - the doctor said he's the size of an average 1 year old....did I mention he's only 6 months?

We spent the weekend cleaning out the various closets in the house.  I'm impressed at the pile of crap we're getting rid of.  Too bad we're too lazy to have a garage sale/put things up on ebay/whatever.  Getting it out of the house is what counts.

NYE we went to a party, and I was able to stay awake until 11pm!  Woo hoo!  Rock and roll lifestyle, let me tell ya!

I suppose I should be spending some quality time on the finer points of HACMP so I can convert some servers.  Good times, good times.

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Happy new year! by toxicfur (4.00 / 2) #1 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 06:36:47 AM EST
And have I mentioned recently that I'm really excited for you two?!? I have all confidence that you'll find a way to make the financials work. It's rare that people have children when it's the "best time" since there is rarely a "best time" to turn one's life upside down. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope you'll start feeling better really soon now. Keep us posted!
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inspiritation: the effect of irritating someone so much it inspires them to do something about it. --BuggEye
Probably late to the party but by TPD (4.00 / 1) #2 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 06:44:24 AM EST
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

hope you enjoyed your NYE party, it might be the last you go to for a few years ;) !

why sit, when you can sit and swivel with The Ab-SwivellerTM

See, here it comes by riceowlguy (4.00 / 1) #3 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 06:46:35 AM EST
The nesting instinct.  Cleaning out your closets.  Anything good you want to give away?

Of course, I spent a lot of my vacation cleaning out my closets too.  I'm not pregnant, so where did this domestic urge come from?  Maybe I'm trying to make a bower.

I've got some stuff to give to Goodwill, some stuff I've put up on Craigslist, and some stuff I'm going to eBay.  I borrowed buttercup's digital camera and spend a lot of time taking photos of the stuff yesterday and the day before.  That's a lot of work.  I could put everything up all at once, but just putting a couple things up on Craigslist has generated an flurry of activity and I'm pegged on my abilities to deal with it, so I'm going to try and space things out more for the eBaying.


DeskJet 612c printer by StackyMcRacky (2.00 / 0) #16 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 07:50:10 AM EST
also, I'm planning on not being lazy and selling my Zen Micro, if you're interested.

I think everything else is just junk, not worth too much.

re: closets - the closet clean-out is something we had on the to-do list for 6 months.  Since we'll be converting the guest room to a baby room, we just decided to get a jump on it now (isn't 6 months enough slack time?)

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Nope by riceowlguy (2.00 / 0) #22 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 08:16:44 AM EST
I broke down and got an iPod back in August.

I just got back from selling my trumpet and gig bag in one fell swoop.  Cash monay.

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kids mess up your budget, by georgeha (4.00 / 2) #4 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 06:53:31 AM EST
We're still recovering from five year old's birth, but I make myself fell better by telling myself I'd rather be poor with kids and grandkids than rich and alone.


congrats by alprazolam (2.00 / 0) #5 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 06:55:27 AM EST
and good luck with the money situation, i hope you guys get some kind of unexpected relief or something in 07.

Happy new year by webwench (4.00 / 5) #6 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 06:58:27 AM EST
and happy pregnancy and good luck with your new love and marriage... my God, talk about 2006 being a good year for you! Screw the settlement, it's just money. You have what's most important in the world already.

Christ I'm mushy these days. Sorry...


Getting more attention than you since 1998.

Nothing to be sorry for by Phage (4.00 / 2) #8 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 07:01:51 AM EST
Best post so far.
We like a bit of mush.

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additional way to save money by joh3n (4.00 / 2) #7 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 06:59:38 AM EST
hit up recently new parents on Husi for hand me down onesies ;)

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I am a crime against humanity
-theantix

heh by StackyMcRacky (2.00 / 0) #17 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 07:51:26 AM EST
I have a sister and 2 cousins for the hand-me downs!

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yeah, but by joh3n (2.00 / 0) #35 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 09:52:47 AM EST
how many of them embroider 't3h l177l3 l33t 0n3' on their onesies?

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I am a crime against humanity
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Did you do that? by theboz (2.00 / 0) #42 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 11:36:06 AM EST
I haven't met your wife, but I can't imagine her letting you put that on your baby.
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That's what I always say about you, boz, you have a good memory for random facts about pussy. -- joh3n
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she let me put it on a shirt by joh3n (2.00 / 0) #44 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 01:15:45 PM EST
she is wise inn the way of t3h g33k

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I am a crime against humanity
-theantix

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Ways to save by wiredog (4.00 / 1) #9 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 07:18:20 AM EST
Cooking most or all of the food you eat. Brown-bag your lunch. Sure, there's an initial upfront expense in getting decent cooking gear, but it pays off quickly. Also, you eat healthier.

Get a freezer. Not the kind that's built in to the fridge, but a standalone unit. (I don't have one, but I live in an apartment by myself.) Then keep your eye on the meat aisle at the local supermarket. Last week chicken breasts were $1/lb here. I bought enough chicken to last until summer. I also picked up a couple of beef roasts (about 10lbs total) on sale.

It's amazing how much money you save by cooking yourself. I eat on $50 to $75/week (including eating out once or twice with friends).

Earth First!
(We can strip mine the rest later.)

Already doing most of that by fencepost (2.00 / 0) #11 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 07:22:57 AM EST
I'm pretty sure that they're doing most of that already - Stacky's posted periodically on the things she was doing to retire all debt, etc. and that was part of it. The brownbagging also goes along with her earlier possibly-about-to-be-undone efforts at weight loss and generally getting healthier.


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speaking of.... by StackyMcRacky (2.00 / 0) #20 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 08:06:53 AM EST
we paid everything off at the end of December.  Only debts left are: mortgage, the legal fees (which we're paying monthly at 0% - no need to speed that up), his student loans (again, super-low interest, so no need to pay them off quickly), and the "property settlement."

It feels really good to start this whole process off at a positive number instead of behind.

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indeed! by clock (2.00 / 0) #12 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 07:29:47 AM EST
we actually use a meal plan to prepare our stuff a month at a time.  it maximizes the use of ingredients, is healthy and gets a good variety at a low cost.  we're also big lunch packers.  we started baking our own bread and have been moving toward making big old pots of goodness to take in our lunches instead of sandwiches all the time.

our analysis indicates that the commute money will be more than worth the change (it also keeps her away from the wheel of a car when the dizziness hits...yeah...i'm paranoid...i love her and need to keep her safe).

there are a few things we can trim down and i know we'll figure it out.  we're smart kids...just a little nervous these days.


I agree with clock entirely --Kellnerin

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I assume you're budgeting by wiredog (2.00 / 0) #15 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 07:48:55 AM EST
and tracking your expenses. Something I learned from Dad was, when I'm preparing to do a new budget (if I'm thinking of buying a house and want to see what I can afford (not a house around here. Not even in the ghetto.)), to write down every expense for a month. Every expense. Carry a pocket size notebook and write down when you buy a candy bar, a pen, whatever. It's surprising, at the end of the month, to see where I could cut back a hundred or so if I wanted to.

Oh, and congratulations! The next 18 years are going to be, well, interesting. Especially if it's a girl, because what if (when she's 12 or 13) she starts dating someone who's like you were at that age? Especially if she takes after Mom.

Oh!(pt 2) and stock up on sleep, it's about to become optional.

Earth First!
(We can strip mine the rest later.)

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expense tracking by StackyMcRacky (2.00 / 0) #19 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 07:59:12 AM EST
that's how we learned we won't be able to survive on just his current paycheck.  And that was counting only essentials, nothing frivolous.

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werd redux by Bob Abooey (2.00 / 0) #23 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 08:20:47 AM EST
write down every expense for a month.

Yep, sage advise. Plus you have to be willing to make sacrifices. I've got a buddy (who makes a decent buck) who is ALWAYS complaining about being broke. I was talking with him about it one day (in an offhand way, I've found it's best not to offer advice in that area unless it's solicited) and it turns out he pays something like 100 bucks a month for his satellite tv deal. $1200 a year to watch tv. Heh. That's just one thing in a list of items (his cell phone package is over 100 bucks (you've got to have an internet enabled phone doncha know)) etc etc. Well yeah, he's always broke cause he HAS TO HAVE these things that he doesn't really have to have. Crazy man, just crazy.

I'll bet I could lop a couple hundred bucks off anybodies budget.

Warmest regards,
--Your best pal Bob

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um by StackyMcRacky (2.00 / 0) #27 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 09:04:01 AM EST
how do you think I came up with the numbers that we won't be able to survive? 

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I dare ya Bob. by dev trash (2.00 / 0) #48 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 02:23:00 PM EST
I know ppl who are always broke too.  XM, three receivers, DISH network with HD.

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Blizzard of Death '06
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Who the Hell lets by ammoniacal (2.00 / 0) #31 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 09:24:01 AM EST
their 12 year old daughter date?

"To this day that was the most bullshit caesar salad I have every experienced..." - triggerfinger

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I was dating when I was12 by wiredog (2.00 / 0) #32 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 09:37:07 AM EST
Taking my 7th grade girlfriend to a movie at the mall, meeting up at some local hangout, things like that.

Earth First!
(We can strip mine the rest later.)

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And I am so sure . . . by slozo (2.00 / 0) #39 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 10:25:36 AM EST
. . . your parents knew? I hope not . . .

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what? by garlic (2.00 / 0) #43 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 11:46:51 AM EST
he didn't say that they were fucking on mom and dad's bed with their permission, he said they hung out at the mall and saw movies.


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Yeah, we waited by wiredog (2.00 / 0) #52 Wed Jan 03, 2007 at 03:03:24 AM EST
until I had a car before we did the Things Parents Object To.

Earth First!
(We can strip mine the rest later.)

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You see that by Bob Abooey (2.00 / 0) #54 Wed Jan 03, 2007 at 07:31:00 AM EST
Parents should be afraid of cars, not Internet porn.

Warmest regards,
--Your best pal Bob

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werd by Bob Abooey (2.00 / 0) #21 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 08:08:58 AM EST
Brown-bag your lunch. Sure, there's an initial upfront expense in getting decent cooking gear, but it pays off quickly. Also, you eat healthier.

It *can* save you money, and it will initially, but the longer you pack the easier it is to start packing good (i.e. more expensive) stuff. I figure I save about $5 a week by packing, which isn't a whole lot, 20 clams a month, but I tend to eat pretty good stuff now-a-days.

I agree with the eating healthier part though, no question about it.

Warmest regards,
--Your best pal Bob

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I eat lunch out by StackyMcRacky (2.00 / 0) #26 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 09:03:28 AM EST
no more than twice a month.

Waaaaay ahead of you, bob.

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The Usual Anxieties by greyrat (4.00 / 3) #10 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 07:21:14 AM EST
  • What if I'm a terrible mother?  HAHAHAHAHAAAAAA!@!!!!111!!!1@$#%^!!! What a load of crap.

  • What if I do something that causes me to miscarry? You won't. If it happens, it happens. It won't be because of you. Got it?
  • What if my mother never leaves me alone? I'm sure Vinny and Guido will be happy to help you with this little problem.

  • OMG, our lives will never be the same again! Indeed!


  • no doubt! by clock (4.00 / 1) #13 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 07:33:42 AM EST
    she'll be an amazing mother, of that i have no doubt.  we're being cautious and watching things carefully.  there just isn't much in the way of logic in the middle of the night when the "what-ifs" come a callin'.

    as for the m-i-l: i'm building a moat and filling it with gators.  and ringing it with razor wire.  and electrifying said wire.  and putting in lions.  big lions.  big, hungry lions.

    who am i kidding?  it'll be great to have sitters in town!

    and yeah...it's all going to be different.  BETTER!


    I agree with clock entirely --Kellnerin

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    I should bookmark this post by theboz (4.00 / 3) #14 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 07:38:33 AM EST
    and yeah...it's all going to be different. BETTER!
    This is going to be hilarious. Of course, it will be great, but the level of excitement you have will probably be muted after you experience some of the things involved. I don't want to taint the experience for you so I won't detail any complaints, but it's going to be tough.
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    agreed. by clock (4.00 / 1) #24 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 08:29:18 AM EST
    there are some things that we're experiencing already that are...um...less than optimal?  but as i've told others, i have a good idea of what we're up against.  i was a very active participant in the raising of two young boys (think burly nanny) and i've seen the darker side(s).  i know that doesn't make me a pro, but i'm more informed, perhaps.

    and most importantly, we've both waited a long time for this.  we've done a lot of thinking and we're excited.  i know it'll be tough, but i also know it'll be worth it.

    ...on most days.


    I agree with clock entirely --Kellnerin

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    Of course by theboz (4.00 / 1) #33 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 09:39:43 AM EST
    there are some things that we're experiencing already that are...um...less than optimal?
    I hear ya. Reading what Stacky says, and I'm sure there are things that I'm reading between the lines as well that may or may not have happened yet, but it can be tough.
    i was a very active participant in the raising of two young boys (think burly nanny) and i've seen the darker side(s). i know that doesn't make me a pro, but i'm more informed, perhaps.
    For me it is being the oldest of four siblings, and helping with other peoples' kids on occasion when I was growing up too. For some reason though, I never really understood that the whole pregnancy part was that tough.

    Anyway, I'm sure you'll do fine, but just try to look ahead and also realize that who Stacky is becoming for these 9 months is not the woman you married, but someone else. It sounds like she's already having a bunch of hormonal things going on, which not only cause her to suffer physically but will affect her emotionally as well. Be prepared for random crying, and if she sends you out on an errand to buy something at the store, be prepared for her to be upset for leaving her alone for so long. It's just the estrogen causing it. It's like a second puberty or something.
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    yeah.... by clock (2.00 / 0) #34 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 09:45:22 AM EST
    ...we're having a lot of fun already.  um... yeah.

    the sands are shifting and so far i haven't fallen on my ass.  we'll see how agile i am in six months.  i guess i'm lucky so far...she hasn't tried to kill me yet.

    but we've had a little of other things.  i'm sure you know what i'm sayin'...


    I agree with clock entirely --Kellnerin

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    that's because by StackyMcRacky (2.00 / 0) #36 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 09:58:12 AM EST
    I'm just too tired.  :)

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    punkin! by clock (2.00 / 0) #37 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 10:03:45 AM EST



    I agree with clock entirely --Kellnerin

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    Get a room you too! by greyrat (2.00 / 0) #40 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 10:45:26 AM EST
    msrat uses the tired thing on me to -- just because she's training for a marathon...

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    we have a room! by clock (2.00 / 0) #41 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 10:46:14 AM EST
    that's how we got into this mess!


    I agree with clock entirely --Kellnerin

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    Practice for this 'better' by by greyrat (4.00 / 1) #18 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 07:58:20 AM EST
    Staying up all night, every night, for two or three weeks straight with the same painfully loud death metal song playing over and over, while keeping Porchea as wound-up as possible. Occasionally throw heated, rotten food in your face. Oh and grab a turd out of the toilet every now and then and smear it up to your elbows before washing it and the rotten food off with cold water. Your break from this is the time you spend commuting and at work.

    This regimen will also help m-i-l's interference  look fine.

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    that sounds... by clock (4.00 / 1) #25 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 08:31:06 AM EST
    ...a lot like college.


    I agree with clock entirely --Kellnerin

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    OK then. Imagine college... by greyrat (4.00 / 1) #28 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 09:09:04 AM EST
    ...WITH A BABY!!!

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    whoa... by clock (4.00 / 1) #29 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 09:13:48 AM EST
    ...you just blew.  my.  mind.


    I agree with clock entirely --Kellnerin

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    screw college by StackyMcRacky (4.00 / 1) #30 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 09:17:05 AM EST
    trade school!

    my diesel mechanic neighbor makes a nice salary, and didn't have the college expenses to go with it.

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    But did he do it... by greyrat (2.00 / 0) #38 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 10:18:17 AM EST
    ...WITH A BABY!!!

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    IAWTP - Spot on Sir by Phage (4.00 / 1) #51 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 10:55:38 PM EST
    And it's good advice. I don't know any couple who hasn't miscarried at least once.
    You should be a bloody doctor.

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    I'm not a doctor, but I play one on TV... by greyrat (4.00 / 1) #53 Wed Jan 03, 2007 at 03:41:16 AM EST
    Fish. In. A. Barrel.

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    Is it too early to think of names? by Evil Herring (4.00 / 2) #45 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 01:19:38 PM EST
    Boys:
    Matthew
    Colin
    Roger
    Rusty
    Bjarne
    Small Boy
    anonimouse

    Girls:
    Hoosia
    Small Girl
    Stacky II
    Clockina
    Samantha
    Willow
    Tara
    Buffy
    Faith
    7 of 9


    hey! by dev trash (2.00 / 0) #46 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 02:06:24 PM EST
    dev trash is a perfectly fine boy or girl name

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    Blizzard of Death '06
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    'Darth' if a boy, 'Vajeena' if a girl. -nt by chuckles (4.00 / 1) #50 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 04:03:21 PM EST


    "The one absolutely certain way of bringing this nation to ruin [...] would be to permit it to become a tangle of squabbling nationalities"
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    congrats. by dev trash (2.00 / 0) #47 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 02:09:43 PM EST
    I just realized that you'll be pregnant thru the June July August stretch of hot Teaxan weather.  Remember, hydrate.

    --
    Blizzard of Death '06
    my camelback will be with me! by StackyMcRacky (2.00 / 0) #49 Tue Jan 02, 2007 at 02:58:54 PM EST


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