Almost two years ago after a tumultuous dating relationship, we had a dramatic break up. After trick-or-treating with the kids (his daughter and my two), he and his daughter took the subway into New York and where he dropped his daughter off with her mother. While on the PATH train home, he chatted up a young woman who he took out for drinks, then they went to her apartment in Jersey City.

Tom and I had a few long ugly phone calls after that, but the gig was over. I don't like the guy anymore (I wonder what I ever saw in him now) and I don't want him prying in my life. He lost any right to any kind of relationship with me when he picked up another woman and spent the night with her.

When I was with him he spent a lot of time keeping in touch with his exes. Tom's ex-girlfriends seemed like a stable of extras that he kept around as back-up. When we were together, I told him I would never be part of his "stable" if we broke up, I'd want no contact with him.

I want no contact with him. He still tries, sometimes with success. Last Winter he e-mailed me that he'd found a bunch of my art and had to get it back to me. He wanted to deliver it to me personally.

As much as I hated responding, the painting he found is very important to me. So I told him to drop off my stuff at my old employer. I got a barrage of messages from him, jumping out of his pants with excitement over my terse messages sticking to just the details of the exchange.

So the asshole sent a message today. He pretends he needs to know if I'd been tested lately (is that a common "I've got to talk to you" scheme?) "No reason in particular", but he was reminded of how important testing is (maybe he should get tested again?). He goes on to make some guesses about where I am and who I'm living with right now (the guesses are kinda funny). He just wants to know that I'm ok.

The fucktard doesn't even offer the obligatory, "so I've moved in with a wonderful woman and I got a promotion". Don't you have to share something about yourself after you ask how someone else is doing? It's not like Tom doesn't have news, an ex-mutual friend wrote me a few months ago asking about feline shots and mentioned that Tom lived with a jealous bitch. Maybe Tom knows I don't care. Stalking bastard.

So what do you do with an idiot that won't take a hint? ammo says it's time. Tom is blocked.