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By LilFlightTest (Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 08:41:38 AM EST) (all tags)
i cannot find a church to get married in. its only a fucking building, but nobody will let us borrow it unless we attend services regularly. now what?


i want to get married in january. this means an outdoor service is not really an option. the place i really like, nick doesnt like at all. it's just an art gallery that does weddings too. i think it's pretty, he doesnt like it because it's too much like a theatre.

i'm really at a loss for where else to look. even places listed under "wedding chapels" seem to be picky.

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LOTS of options by The Fool (4.00 / 1) #1 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 08:53:04 AM EST
The last wedding that I attended was at an aquarium. Look for any place that has sufficient space, and see if they have some contact for reserving it.

I can help by Herring (2.00 / 0) #2 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 08:58:10 AM EST
If you're prepared to travel. Really big picture enclosed. Most of the structure dates from 1497 (windows were finished 1510) but parts of the tower are much older.

christ, we're all old now - StackyMcRacky
Now by ni (2.00 / 0) #33 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 12:11:32 PM EST
I want to get married just so I can exploit my awesome husi contact.

I guess I can safely assume your link to the church (parent, right?) is pretty devote? I can't finally get married to the sea, can I?


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Well, by Herring (4.00 / 1) #36 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 12:27:54 PM EST
my mum does a lot of the running of the place (she was on the TV for it back in February). She got me and Mrs. H. the venue despite the fact that we're both atheists and Mrs. H. is divorced. From a catholic. She had to tell some porkies to the bishop, but hey.

Actually mum says she's in it for the singing and the drinks parties - not so much the religion. But this is, after all, the CofE which is very much Christianity Lite.

christ, we're all old now - StackyMcRacky

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comedy options by webwench (4.00 / 2) #3 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 09:02:52 AM EST
(1) justice of the peace
(2) mom's living room
(3) attend services at the prettiest church between now and January. Most people attend church just for show and social reasons anyway, so why not you?


Getting more attention than you since 1998.

i love the analysis of the faithful from by garlic (4.00 / 3) #19 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 10:45:58 AM EST
the faithless.


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you're welcome by webwench (4.00 / 4) #26 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 11:04:07 AM EST
I like to think of it as 'an unbiased view'.


Getting more attention than you since 1998.

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eh by MM (4.00 / 1) #30 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 11:32:08 AM EST
in the church I grew up in I'd say half of them were there for social reasons or just out of habit.

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we WANT a JOP. by LilFlightTest (4.00 / 1) #40 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 12:55:13 PM EST
but that still leaves us with where. i found a lovely place, nick doesnt like it.
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wait by StackyMcRacky (4.00 / 1) #62 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 04:15:47 PM EST
you want a JOP to marry you in a church?  yeah, that's never going to fly, even if you're a $$$member$$$

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wedding chapels exist by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #67 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 05:17:39 PM EST
i know they do. i dont even need a church, just a building that isnt ugly or small.
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here in houston by StackyMcRacky (2.00 / 0) #74 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 08:19:33 PM EST
all the wedding chapels had package deals attached to them.  you couldn't just go and get married without all the bells and whistles (for a hefty price tag).

I got married at a golf club.  The ceremony was held out in the courtyard, but the ballroom had a georgous staircase that was our "weather backup".  It was really nice, and ended up being relatively inexpensive*

*inexpensive because i said "F THIS!" and hired a wedding coordinator.  she ruled, and was able to negotiate all kinds of places and services down in price.  what she saved us in money for stuff was equivalent of her fee, plus we had absolutly no hassle on the day itself (like when things went wrong - she handled it all).  YMMV 

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ya by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #81 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 03:55:04 AM EST
but we live near kohler...any golf club near here either demands you be a member, or is insanely expensive.

wedding coordinator would be lovely to have, unfortunately, the area we live in doesnt seem to have too many of them.
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did you by Mrs FlightTest (2.00 / 0) #99 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 05:25:42 PM EST
check out this place?
or this one?
not sure if this would be close enough to you, but it looks nice.
i like the name of this place but they have no website to check out:
Wilderness Roadside Inn
N5575 State Rd 57
Plymouth, WI 53073
Phone: (920) 892-4544
Fax: (920) 893-8994

of course there is always our way! but apparently they no longer have their own website. when i checked it out a few years ago, they had gotten rid of the 10' waterfall that the couple stands in front of and put in a cheesy white fountain. the picture looks like a photo of the brochure they had sent us, and is what it looked like when we got married, but it looked much nicer in person.

happy hunting. hope you find something that you can both agree on, that you like and that has the time available for you.

Wheeee...Flyin' is Fun!!

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expensive! by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #101 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 06:43:18 PM EST
and the wilderness is just a restaurant, i dont know that they have anything big enough for 300 people.
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(4) Marry a choirboy by Rogerborg (4.00 / 1) #47 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 01:51:42 PM EST
You could slip it in after his Sunday School session.

Yes, I know, but if all you've going to sow is reruns, then that's what you'll reap.

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sigh by webwench (4.00 / 1) #64 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 04:38:37 PM EST
you're just a laugh a minute, aren't you?


Getting more attention than you since 1998.

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OK, that was tedious, and I apologise. by Rogerborg (2.00 / 0) #75 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 10:40:22 PM EST
If it helps, I was thinking of someone else while I did you.

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the people you're trying to rent from by aphrael (4.00 / 5) #4 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 09:07:10 AM EST
disagree that it's "only a fucking building"; they think it is a building consecrated and hallowed by God, and that renting it to unbelievers(tm) will defile it.
If television is a babysitter, the internet is a drunk librarian who won't shut up.
But by Herring (4.00 / 2) #5 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 09:15:31 AM EST
they'd probably let Pat Robertson in. Define "defile".

christ, we're all old now - StackyMcRacky
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Deting by yicky yacky (4.00 / 4) #34 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 12:20:35 PM EST
which goes in decompiler and gets turned into deobject code.
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I smell a business opportunity by jimgon (4.00 / 3) #6 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 09:17:53 AM EST
A chain of churches that rent themselves out to people looking for church weddings. 




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And orgies. /nt by ni (4.00 / 2) #32 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 12:06:04 PM EST



<IgnoreAmos> I opened the bottle last night; it's almost gone.
<IgnoreAmos> I use the backspace key a lot.

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Now that's executive thinking <n/t> by jimgon (2.00 / 0) #78 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 02:57:53 AM EST





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huh by webwench (4.00 / 1) #66 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 05:07:47 PM EST
That could be fun. Get yourself ordained in some crazy internet-order ministry, buy some old church (I've seen them on the market occasionally, for relatively cheap even), and start holding weddings on weekends. And goth orgies during the week, I dunno.


Getting more attention than you since 1998.

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Rev Jim by jimgon (2.00 / 0) #77 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 02:57:18 AM EST
Did it in the 90s.  Never bought the church though. 




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Wait! by mrgoat (2.00 / 0) #88 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 06:38:39 AM EST
I'm Some Crazy Internet Ordained Minister!

--top hat--
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My. Point. Exactly. by webwench (2.00 / 0) #92 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 08:38:05 AM EST
en tea


Getting more attention than you since 1998.

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Forgive me. by mrgoat (2.00 / 0) #93 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 09:16:00 AM EST
I'd love to stay and chat, but there's a squirrel and a lilac bush out back that need to be united in holy matrimony.

They just don't know it yet.

--top hat--

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I didn't realize by jimgon (4.00 / 1) #102 Wed Jul 26, 2006 at 03:46:50 AM EST
You relocated to Vermont.  When did that happen?




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Syrup fetish. :/ by mrgoat (2.00 / 0) #103 Wed Jul 26, 2006 at 05:12:22 AM EST
It was induced via hallucinatory drugs last week.

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So by DesiredUsername (4.00 / 2) #8 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 09:24:02 AM EST
If an unbeliever comes in for a service, do they refuse the donation to the collection plate?

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Do you know where that money goes? by debacle (2.00 / 0) #55 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 02:54:38 PM EST


IF YOU HAVE TWO FIRLES THOROWNF MONEY ART SUOCIDE GIRLS STRIPPER HPW CAN YPUS :OSE?!?!?!?(elcevisides).

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Paying off abused altar boys (n/t) by jimgon (4.00 / 1) #79 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 02:59:07 AM EST





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God Needs Booze. by mrgoat (2.00 / 0) #89 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 06:40:03 AM EST


--top hat--
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I'm a believer, and she's a confirmed Catholic by nstenz (4.00 / 1) #13 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 10:04:06 AM EST
But I don't worship the same God the right way, apparently.

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Jeez! by CheeseburgerBrown (4.00 / 1) #16 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 10:26:22 AM EST
And I thought they gave Littlestar and I a hard time, and the issue there was that I was unbaptized heathen non-believer in their magicks.

In contrast to the hair-splitting they're doing with you, the trouble they gave us seems almost reasonable.


I am from a small, unknown country in the north called Ca-na-da. We are a simple, grease-loving people who enjoy le weekend de ski.
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Ah, by ks1178 (4.00 / 3) #21 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 10:50:40 AM EST
But you were obviously an un-educated heathen, who did not know the glory of the 1 true god.

nstenz admits to believing in the 1 true god, but worships him in a heretical, evil fashion.

It's not your fault you don't know better not having been properly brought up. That's your parents', and they will burn in the Fiery Depths for all of eternity because of it. Unless of course they we never introduced either, then they'll hang out in Pergatory, or possible even Heaven depending on what Brand of Magick Worship we're discussing, with you in the afterlife.

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You Know... by CheeseburgerBrown (4.00 / 1) #27 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 11:04:25 AM EST
...it's exactly that attitude that made it so very satisfying to fire Minister Candidate #2, who clearly did not see himself as a getting-fired-from-the-gig kinda guy.

Fucker had the temerity to suggest I needed to attend six weeks of Jesus class before he'd consent to marry me to my wife.

Quoth I, "Pray the door doesn't hit your ass on the way out."


I am from a small, unknown country in the north called Ca-na-da. We are a simple, grease-loving people who enjoy le weekend de ski.
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You think that's bad by ks1178 (4.00 / 3) #35 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 12:21:53 PM EST
My parents were initially denied by their parish priest to partake in the sacrement of marriage because my mother made the mistake of confiding in him that she wasn't sure if she could physically have children. Not that she didn't want them, woudln't try to have as many as she could, or wouldn't raise them Catholic, but she wasn't sure if she could actually have them for medical reasons.

The asshole actually advised my dad to not marry her and find a wife that wasn't defective...

Suffice to say they didn't get married in that Parish.

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So you expect a guy by debacle (4.00 / 1) #56 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 02:56:43 PM EST
Who has no concept of relationships too give good advice when it comes to relationships?

I would have told your dad to baste that barren cervix in love juice, rejoicing in the gift of unprotected sex.

Which is obviously what happened anyway.


IF YOU HAVE TWO FIRLES THOROWNF MONEY ART SUOCIDE GIRLS STRIPPER HPW CAN YPUS :OSE?!?!?!?(elcevisides).

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How to get Married in a Catholic Church by ks1178 (2.00 / 0) #37 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 12:34:25 PM EST
If you really want to get married in a traditional church, you'll either have to find one that will rent it self out to anyone (Unlikely). Or go through with the actual Sacrement of Marriage at the Church. At this point I'm going to assume a Roman Catholic Church.

Now the Sacrement is different than just using the building to be "married". Some churches will allow this, must won't. The following is in regards to the actual Roman Catholic Sacrament.

Some of the technical requirements for being married in the Catholic Church are the following (among others):

  1. Both the Bride and the Groom must be Baptised, practising Catholics.
  2. Both the Bride and the Groom must want to have children, and as many as God gives them.
  3. Both the Bride and the Groom must be physically able to have children.
  4. Both the Bride and the Groom must promise to raise any children as Roman Catholics.
Now depending on the Priest, his Parish and his Diocese he will be less or more strict regarding each point.

1. Has 2 parts, Being Catholic, and being a practising Catholic.

If at least 1 of you is Catholic, you can get special dispensation to still be married in the Catholic Church.

To be a practising Catholic, you usually need to be a part of the parish that you want to be married at for a certain amount of time.

"Practising" Catholic may or may not have to got to "x" # of masses. Usually, if you sign up at the Parish, and have them mail you stuff for "x" amount of time that is enough.

This is done primarily for pragmatic reasons, because despite the fact that you are charged for using the Church for a wedding, it tends to be much less than it actually costs.

Plus depending on the size of the Parish it cuts down on the total # of Weddings requested. (Particularily if it's a very nice looking church).

Some Priests and Parishes are much less strict about this.

2. As far as Roman Catholic Dogma and beliefs go, the only reason to get married and have sex is to procreate. If you don't want to, there's no point in getting married. (This goes along with using birth control).

To get around this, if it's not true, just say it is.

Again this is highly subjective to the Priest/Parish that you are looking to be married by/at.

3. Disgustingly, this is actually a requirement as well.

If this applies to you, and the priest is actually that much of an a-hole to ask, request dispensation.

4. If asked, and you say you won't, they will deny the sacrement of marriage as well.

There are cases were you might get it dispensed if you promise to raise "X" percent of children Roman Catholic. (For example, I have an Aunt who married a Jew. They had both a Jewish and Roman Catholic sanctioned weddings. The initial plan was to raise any boys Jewish, and any girls Roman Catholic. Unless you want to be sanctioned by both Churches, it's probably not worth the hassle to set something like this up. Oh and depending on the spouse's religion they may not go for this at all.

I don't remember if both the Bride and Groom must have been born to wedded parents. I beleive that is only a requirement for Priests. (Heathen born children, or bastards need not apply).

Often, if you show up to a new parish, answer the above questions "correctly", tell them that you want to start practising again at their church, and take a few marriage classes, the priest will be happy to marry you in his church. Though it usually takes a certain amount of time to prove you really mean it. (Usually a few months, I know my old parish when I was growing up had an 8 week period).

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i want nothing to do with a catholic ceremony. by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #39 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 12:54:21 PM EST
i just want their delicious buildings.
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Look for one that's been sold off by lm (2.00 / 0) #54 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 02:48:59 PM EST
In Cincinnati there are several Anglican and Catholic inner city buildings that have been sold to various community groups or non-denominational groups because the buildings couldn't support a parish anymore.

There is no more degenerate kind of state than that in which the richest are supposed to be the best.
Cicero, The Republic
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Also of note by debacle (2.00 / 0) #57 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 03:01:23 PM EST
If you attend Church A, which seats 200 people, but you want to invite 500 people, often times you can have your pastor write a note for you vouching for the fact that you are, indeed, a good Catholic, and deserve to have your wedding at Church B, which seats the appropriate number.

IF YOU HAVE TWO FIRLES THOROWNF MONEY ART SUOCIDE GIRLS STRIPPER HPW CAN YPUS :OSE?!?!?!?(elcevisides).

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Nice, but wrong by notafurry (2.00 / 0) #90 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 06:46:29 AM EST
I was married in the Catholic church. I was a confirmed Catholic, my bride was not even Christian. She had to sign a church document agreeing that our children would be raised Catholic (oops). There was a discussion about children, the fact that we both wanted them but may not be physically able; the priest was sympathetic and said he hoped it would never be an issue for us, but if it for some reason was, there were many other paths to becoming a parent.

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Church wedding by jimgon (2.00 / 0) #80 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 03:04:20 AM EST
I'm normally an atheist, but was a confirmed Catholic.  My wife is deist at best, but she also was a confirmed Catholic.  We got married by a Reformed Baptist in a Baptist Church.  




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i was confirmed by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #82 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 03:56:25 AM EST
against my will. i'd rather not be catholic.
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Don't hold yourself to a Catholic church by jimgon (2.00 / 0) #87 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 06:32:38 AM EST
There are some really nice church's of the Baptist or Unitarian religions and some of those congregations can be accomodating.  Believe me it's strange for a Baptist Minister to preside on a ceremony for a atheist.




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i've been looking everywhere but by LilFlightTest (4.00 / 1) #94 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 12:05:35 PM EST
right now i'm looking at a lovely UCC, which i'm told will take us.
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PVC geodesic dome in driveway (nt) by DesiredUsername (2.00 / 0) #7 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 09:20:14 AM EST


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build one by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #68 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 05:21:53 PM EST
and insulate it. i'd love it.
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You can marry in a grain elevator, you know. by komet (4.00 / 5) #9 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 09:27:17 AM EST
Which is it? Either you think a church is just a fucking building or you think it's important to marry in a church. You can't have both.

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I think the key point by notafurry (2.00 / 0) #10 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 09:40:31 AM EST
Is not that it's a church, but that churches are pretty buildings, generally.

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heh, have you seen many modern ones? by gzt (4.00 / 2) #11 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 09:47:12 AM EST
a lot of them seem to go out of their way to make them ugly, esp. modern Catholic churches.

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Where are you seeing modern Catholic churches? by georgeha (2.00 / 0) #12 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 09:55:37 AM EST
The newest Catholic churches I see tend to be built in the 50's and 60's, during the suburban diaspora, which were generally horrid, like Danish Modern on acid while listening to Bach. Nowadays, the only churches I see being constructed are the evangelical mega-churches, with styles ranging from steel framed oversized classic New England church to simplified cathedral.


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50's and 60's is modern era by gzt (2.00 / 0) #25 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 11:00:35 AM EST
more monstrosities are occasionally being built around here as people continue to go further out in suburbia and the former urban church from 1889 decays. plus occasionally new ones for hispanic or polish [etc] immigrants, but they vary. but, yeah, i think you capture the feeling just about right.

huh, the evangelical megachurches i tend to see look like cardboard boxes, movie theatres, or warehouses. occasionally convention centers.

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ie willow creek out in schaumburg/barrington. by garlic (2.00 / 0) #29 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 11:30:04 AM EST
I have a hard time giving money in churches focussing on their building fund instead of focussing on using the money for proslytizing or helping the needy.


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Yep by notafurry (4.00 / 1) #17 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 10:43:12 AM EST
And it doesn't matter. One, LFT is in the midwest, where a "new" church is less than 100 years old, and the majority will be stone or brick with lots of stained glass - i.e., pretty. Two, most of the ugly churches are "temporary" - "give us money for our new church!" - and aren't available for weddings even for members, instead using the nearest "sister" church that is pretty.

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"midwest" by gzt (2.00 / 0) #28 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 11:07:06 AM EST
the midwest is a pretty friggin diverse place. i've lived in a variety of places in the midwest where your assertion about newness would not be very true at all. perhaps you're more familiar with the area LFT is from, in which case, i concede on that point. i've also had personal involvement with the construction of nontraditional ugly nontemporary new churches in the midwest because of familial ties, as well as being an observer of religious trends in america. same caveat as before applies.

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By that logic by komet (4.00 / 4) #15 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 10:24:42 AM EST
everyone should marry in the Chrysler Building.

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Um, no. by notafurry (2.00 / 0) #20 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 10:49:19 AM EST
One, the Chrysler building ain't that pretty.

Two, even if I agreed that the Chrysler building was pretty, it isn't the only pretty building.

And three, I don't see the point you're trying to make. I'm sure there is one, in your mind at least, and we'd all be entertained if you cared to elaborate.

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LIES by StackyMcRacky (2.00 / 0) #63 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 04:20:51 PM EST
the Chrysler building is one of the best-looking buildings on the planet!

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You're just saying that by notafurry (2.00 / 0) #91 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 06:48:29 AM EST
Because it looks like a penis and clock was home when you wrote that.

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nope by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #42 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 12:57:13 PM EST
churches are just large and pretty. if you can find me an equivalent space, be my guest.
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How many people? by jayhawk88 (2.00 / 0) #14 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 10:11:21 AM EST
Jenn and I got married in a bed and breakfast. We basically found a Sunday evening when they didn't have many reservations, they cleared out the main eating area, did a quick ceremony there, then dinner afterwards. We had around 20 people there I think.

not going to work by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #43 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 12:57:27 PM EST
we have 300.
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looks like you got some disinviting to do. by garlic (2.00 / 0) #45 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 01:07:05 PM EST


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only about 100 of those wont... by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #50 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 02:01:58 PM EST
nick's family is 70, mine about the same..
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Maybe you've already looked into this by jayhawk88 (4.00 / 1) #76 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 02:02:04 AM EST
...but have you checked with the Methodists? Around Kansas they're usually fairly lax about the whole "you have to go here to be married here" thing. Not to make assumtions on what you believe (haven't read the entire thread here maybe it's already come up), but I think usually if you agree to just meet with the pastor and talk about what you both believe, why God is important to a marriage, etc, they'll let you rent the church. Maybe you have to promise him that you'll look into attending somewhere regularly once you "settle in" or whatever.

Again I'm sort of assuming here that you're quasi-religious on some level and not just totally athiest or agnostic or otherwise dead set against the idea of organized religion.

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the methodists by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #83 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 03:59:11 AM EST
havent returned my call yet. the thing is, we dont really like organized religion, because we have yet to find one that meets our needs. as far as god in a marriage...we believe in a higher power than ourselves, but i've always kind of felt that if god was enough, marriage would be easy.
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seconded by webwench (2.00 / 0) #85 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 04:07:43 AM EST
a methodist minister married the ex and I in his church, even knowing I was a nonbelieving heathen.


Getting more attention than you since 1998.

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and we see how that turned out. by garlic (2.00 / 0) #95 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 12:24:35 PM EST


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well yeah by webwench (2.00 / 0) #97 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 12:28:49 PM EST
you'll notice my list of recommendations didn't include 'call the methodists, they'll hitch anyone!'


Getting more attention than you since 1998.

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If you don't regularly attend service by debacle (4.00 / 5) #18 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 10:45:26 AM EST
What's the point of getting married in a church?

Get over yourself.


IF YOU HAVE TWO FIRLES THOROWNF MONEY ART SUOCIDE GIRLS STRIPPER HPW CAN YPUS :OSE?!?!?!?(elcevisides).

Because by notafurry (4.00 / 1) #22 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 10:52:50 AM EST
It has seating for large groups of people (and midwest weddings for relatively young people typically have large groups of people involved), it's generally a pretty building with lots of stained glass and stone and polished wood, etc., and it's typically not heavily used on Saturdays, which would be the traditional wedding day.

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It's also a holy place by debacle (4.00 / 4) #23 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 10:57:43 AM EST
Those damned selfish Christan fuckers.

IF YOU HAVE TWO FIRLES THOROWNF MONEY ART SUOCIDE GIRLS STRIPPER HPW CAN YPUS :OSE?!?!?!?(elcevisides).

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exactly. by LilFlightTest (4.00 / 1) #44 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 12:59:02 PM EST
from my description of it as "just a building" i dont give a fuck about it's religious status. one of the ones we're looking at isnt even a functional parish anymore. we just need a large building that doesnt look like ass. we even considered a shed, for fuck's sake, but it'll be too cold in january...
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LFT by MM (4.00 / 2) #24 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 10:57:50 AM EST
You love living in small town America but you hate the narrow minded culture. Don't get married in a church. All the "buts" you could list in reply to that are immaterial to the reality at hand.

IAWTP by Driusan (2.00 / 0) #31 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 11:49:33 AM EST
All they really need is somewhere that looks pretty and will be able to hold all their friends and family. I recommend a theatre.

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um. by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #41 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 12:56:44 PM EST
where will i find one of those nearby?
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If you weren't an uncultured swine, you'd know. by debacle (4.00 / 1) #58 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 03:03:59 PM EST


IF YOU HAVE TWO FIRLES THOROWNF MONEY ART SUOCIDE GIRLS STRIPPER HPW CAN YPUS :OSE?!?!?!?(elcevisides).

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Ask city hall by Driusan (2.00 / 0) #65 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 04:57:13 PM EST
Better yet: rent city hall.

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As a hard-bitten, cynical by yicky yacky (4.00 / 4) #38 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 12:51:39 PM EST

agnostic of sorts, I have a hard time disagreeing with the churchfolk here. [That caught you, didn't it?]

In the last fifteen years, I've set foot inside a church twice (one funeral, one wedding). Without going into details, within my family is a very important priest in charge of a large, important church. The rules he has to play by are these:

What I find stunning is the assumption of compliance; as if it's somehow backward, or mean, for this to be denied; it's basic Lockean property rights. Wherefore springs this baseless sense of entitlement? Unless you are one of their flock, you have no more right to expect marriage dibs in any given church than to have the marriage performed in the Oval Office, or the Tate Gallery. In fact, given that the Tate Gallery is Lottery-funded and the Oval Office paid-for from tax, you may have more of a claim in the latter case.

Why should the church have to say an unconditional "yes", just because someone fancies the look and convenience of their digs? Some people need to watch "The Century of the Self".


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well, by komet (4.00 / 1) #48 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 01:54:31 PM EST
marriage is an egotistical endeavour anyway.

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YES! I GIVE YOU A FOUR! by debacle (4.00 / 1) #59 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 03:05:14 PM EST


IF YOU HAVE TWO FIRLES THOROWNF MONEY ART SUOCIDE GIRLS STRIPPER HPW CAN YPUS :OSE?!?!?!?(elcevisides).

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i dont even really need their priest by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #51 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 02:05:57 PM EST
also, if you advertize yourself in the yellowpages as a wedding chapel, you shouldnt be so conditional.

mom is checking on one of the satellite churches in her parish. technically i still belong to that one, though i dont recall ever having gone to that particular church building. the main church is one of those weird modern things, it has three wings and it's ugly. if the priest is willing to overlook the fact that we live together and have for years..if he's willing to overlook that i'm not going to change who i am just to get married there...if he can accept that while i have faith, i do not agree with the catholic religion...i'm more than willing to have him do the ceremony. but i refuse to change who i am just to use a building.
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So basically by debacle (4.00 / 1) #60 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 03:07:25 PM EST
If the priest is willing to overlook the fact that you pretty much have broken every premarital rule in the Catholic book, you'll 'let' him do the ceremony?

IF YOU HAVE TWO FIRLES THOROWNF MONEY ART SUOCIDE GIRLS STRIPPER HPW CAN YPUS :OSE?!?!?!?(elcevisides).

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What could be more Catholic... by ShadowNode (2.00 / 0) #71 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 07:18:09 PM EST
Than disregarding all the church's rules?

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Killing Jews. by debacle (4.00 / 1) #73 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 07:51:58 PM EST


IF YOU HAVE TWO FIRLES THOROWNF MONEY ART SUOCIDE GIRLS STRIPPER HPW CAN YPUS :OSE?!?!?!?(elcevisides).

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that's also against the rules by nathan (2.00 / 0) #105 Thu Jul 27, 2006 at 07:40:30 AM EST
Call the redundancy redundancy department.

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Depends on which pope you ask by debacle (2.00 / 0) #106 Thu Jul 27, 2006 at 08:34:13 AM EST
And since they're all in hell, I'll have time to question them all.

IF YOU HAVE TWO FIRLES THOROWNF MONEY ART SUOCIDE GIRLS STRIPPER HPW CAN YPUS :OSE?!?!?!?(elcevisides).

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that's also against the rules = by nathan (2.00 / 0) #107 Thu Jul 27, 2006 at 08:50:54 AM EST


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What about hotels? by ShadowNode (2.00 / 0) #70 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 07:17:18 PM EST
They're not generally allowed to be so discriminating.

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we're visiting one tonight by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #84 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 04:01:03 AM EST
it has a ballroom, where we're looking for the reception. we might use the ballroom for that, or it has a dome thing with a garden and fountains in it.
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That sounds nice by ShadowNode (2.00 / 0) #100 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 06:01:20 PM EST
A dome thing with plants might make a good spot for the ceremony, if its big enough.

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You're having a reception? by kwsNI (4.00 / 1) #46 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 01:22:41 PM EST
We did ours in our reception hall.  Everyone absolutely loved it becaues they didn't have to drive between places, they didn't have to worry about the weather and they could settle in for the wedding and the reception. 

Best of all, we saved renting a second facility, do it cost less too.

one we're looking at tomorrow by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #49 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 02:01:36 PM EST
i've been to for another wedding..if i recall, they have a large indoor garden/atrium area...it'd be perfect.
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How late are you thinking of turning up? by Rogerborg (2.00 / 0) #52 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 02:12:57 PM EST
I understand that packing a Lady Derringer in your garter belt is de rigeur.

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options? by reza (4.00 / 1) #53 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 02:34:02 PM EST
-Greenhouses
-Golf course club houses
-Museums
-Art Galleries
-Look at banquet halls that have larger facilities to do it all on-site.
-College chapels/Neumann Center
-Bed & Breakfast
-"local points of interest"

Just some ideas where to look for options.

Good Luck!
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Reza


" Be who you are and say how you feel, because those who mind do not matter, and those who matter do not mind!" Dr. Seuss

Ask florist, caterer, etc. for suggestions by Jenn (4.00 / 1) #61 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 03:36:15 PM EST
They're probably going to know the non-church places that worked for weddings, and didn't work for weddings.  The caterer for our cake (yes we had 22 people and cake for over 100..but it was pretty! and tasted good!)  had never been to the bed and breakfast we went to...but has been recommending it ever since.

Anyone who's involved with weddings a lot will probably have some good non-traditional ideas.  Some of the best environments are non-church ones, IMHO.

well, the dilemma by LilFlightTest (2.00 / 0) #69 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 05:25:20 PM EST
is that nick and my mother both want the ceremony and reception to be close together. so i cant book a hall til i have a ceremony location. the places we're looking at are mostly supper clubs and as such arent really "catered". we're keeping most of the stuff in-family, with people who dont do flowers and whatever for a living, so wouldnt really know whats awesome around here. i asked the girl who's singing for us, though, and she had some ideas...unfortunately nick didnt like any of them.

tomorrow we're looking at a holiday inn "holidome" which happens to have an indoor garden thing with fountains. we'll see if that would be suitable.
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january by martingale (2.00 / 0) #72 Mon Jul 24, 2006 at 07:25:40 PM EST
That's Superbowl season, isn't it? If you time the wedding right, you could rent one of the unused stadia, since only one is going to be used for the game. Have a stadium-wedding, how cool is that?
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Wisconsin by houser2112 (4.00 / 1) #86 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 06:24:23 AM EST
She lives in Wisconsin, and the wedding is in January.  Since you mention Super Bowl, the closest NFL stadium would be in Green Bay.  Lambeau Field has the nickname "Frozen Tundra".  Nice try, anyway. :)

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and, by garlic (4.00 / 1) #96 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 12:26:20 PM EST
any true greenbay fan would LOVE that.


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surely by martingale (2.00 / 0) #98 Tue Jul 25, 2006 at 03:51:27 PM EST
that would qualify as a "white wedding" :)
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Here's a thought by vorheesleatherface (2.00 / 0) #104 Wed Jul 26, 2006 at 11:23:57 PM EST
State Houses are usually available for weddings.


As a guy who helps run a church by ObviousTroll (2.00 / 0) #108 Mon Jul 31, 2006 at 06:32:25 PM EST
how would you feel if strangers wanted to rent your dining room for the day?

Although, I admit telling said strangers that they were welcome to rent said dining room for a nominal fee, but only after they spent 4-6 weeks attending pre-dinner training classes, is a bit much.

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4-6 weeks wouldnt be so bad by LilFlightTest (4.00 / 1) #109 Tue Aug 01, 2006 at 04:12:59 AM EST
but, wouldnt it be a little better if they asked to use it, than if they just started showing up every week and then wanted to host a dinner party there? i mean, you'd feel all used, because you know they just wanted your room all along...
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