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By Cloaked User (Sat Dec 09, 2006 at 11:53:12 AM EST) (all tags)
Well, I promised I'd knock out a quick one a few days ago, but work got in the way, so here it is...


Only a quick one still I'm afraid though, as I'm due to meet a friend at my local Tube station in 30 mins and I'm not even dressed, let alone finished drinking.

Work is that most unusual thing at the moment - simultaneously busy without being a death march and interesting. I'm actually having fun. Working. Who'd have thought it? I sense that the condition is like a beautiful insect - a wondrous thing to behold, intricately detailed but so fragile that it cannot possibly survive long. I watch with interest; we're supposed to be moving offices to Hammersmith soon, and given that that'll add 30 mins or so to my commute each way I feel that we may come to a parting of the ways.

Speaking of parting, the situation with my ex is rapidly coming to a head. Given that we're a) lazy and b) still good friends, we're still sharing a house at the moment. Increasingly this has become a source of frustration and on occasion tension, and so the current plan is for her to move out in the new year - by late Jan or early Feb, as Fate decrees. It'll be odd having the place to myself, and even stranger not having her and my daughter around. I know from experience that on the whole I'll enjoy my new-found freedom, but still... The good news is that initially at least she's planning on staying in the area, so visiting rights will be easy to exercise (on both parts, given I'm keeping the pets). We're also planning on me having our daughter to stay every Friday night and every other Saturday night, as plans allow (ie it's understood that I will be out some Fridays). Part of me can't wait to have the opportunity to fully get on with my life (and give my ex the change to do the same), while part of me mourns the ending of a chapter. C'est la vie.

Right then - I'm meeting my friend in 20 mins ("I'm getting a cab, so don't be late ;p"), time to get dressed and blow this joint.

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Does she get visitation rights on the mortgage? by ShadowNode (4.00 / 2) #1 Sat Dec 09, 2006 at 01:35:54 PM EST
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In a sense by Cloaked User (2.00 / 0) #2 Tue Dec 12, 2006 at 04:23:32 AM EST
We're still really good friends, so I certainly won't be banning her from the house. I won't necessarily expect her to just turn up unannounced, but I am seriously considering letting her keep her set of keys once she moves out. Although in true paranoid style, part of me can't help but wonder that that's not just out of some small wish that things were different. I don't see why though; I don't wish that they were different...


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Have you agreed child support etc? by Dr H0ffm4n (2.00 / 0) #3 Fri Dec 15, 2006 at 05:59:52 AM EST


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Yes by Cloaked User (2.00 / 0) #5 Sat Jan 13, 2007 at 12:08:40 PM EST
Less than it appears that I can comfortably afford, given a very rough and ready budgeting; less than the CSA would demand, if they weren't too busy being disbanded (or whatever it is that's happening). I think I may feel the need to up it once I know for sure what state my finances are in - sitting in front of a spreadsheet is one thing, but no plan survives contact with the enemy...


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Are you sure? by ShadowNode (2.00 / 0) #4 Sat Dec 16, 2006 at 10:38:07 PM EST
Perhaps some part of you wishes she were different, somehow. If that's possible, you should think very carefully about how much contact with her is healthy.

Or I could just be projecting.

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Wow, nearly a month later by Cloaked User (2.00 / 0) #6 Sat Jan 13, 2007 at 12:12:44 PM EST
But that gives me an advantage leant by time - clarity of vision. It doesn't tell me whether or not you're projecting, but it does assure me of one thing - I am fine with this. She's moved out; true, it's only been a week, and we speak every night, but there's no heartache, no longing, no wishing that things could be different.

We're still the best of friends, but neither of us wants there to be any more than that between us.


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This is not a psychotic episode. It is a cleansing moment of clarity.

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