How wrong is it to take a lesser job because the better job hasn't been offered to you yet?

take the lesser job   0 votes - 0 %
take the lesser job and dump when better job comes 'round   8 votes - 47 %
wait for better job   1 vote - 5 %
stall   8 votes - 47 %
other (please post)   0 votes - 0 %
17 Total Votes
WIPO by ks1178 (4.00 / 7) #1 Mon Apr 03, 2006 at 02:53:34 PM EST
Stall, until after you've had the second interview.

Ideally, if the first offers you the position at the end of the week, let them know that you're interested but not ready yet to commit.

Depending on your comfort level tell them that you're waiting to hear back from one other possible job offer, and you'll let them know by some date that you think you'll know if you have the better job yet.

I'm a firm believer in not burning my bridges though, and initially offering to take the job to dump it in a week, is definitely a way to burn your bridges.

that's a good suggestion. by calla (2.00 / 0) #2 Mon Apr 03, 2006 at 02:56:35 PM EST
I'll put it in the poll.


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Agreed by komet (4.00 / 4) #3 Mon Apr 03, 2006 at 02:58:45 PM EST
it's fine to let the company know that you have other offers lined up. If they really want you, they may be inclined to sweeten the deal.

<ni> komet: You are functionally illiterate as regards trashy erotica.
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So Very, Juicily True.* by CheeseburgerBrown (2.00 / 0) #5 Mon Apr 03, 2006 at 04:27:31 PM EST
Tell the second job by ucblockhead (4.00 / 7) #4 Mon Apr 03, 2006 at 03:43:43 PM EST
If you are seriously considering taking the first job, tell the people at the second place. It may get them to move more quickly and it does make you look more valuable when you interview with them. (Saying "someone else offered me a job but I still want to work for you" makes you look more valueable and makes them like you are going to be dedicated to them. Win/Win. Don't do that, though, unless you have a firm offer and are willing to take it, though.

Accepting an offer and then bailing later is a perfect way burning a bridge down.
[ucblockhead is] useless and subhuman

A year ago, I was in your present position by lm (4.00 / 2) #6 Mon Apr 03, 2006 at 04:51:02 PM EST
I was honest up front. I'm got one other pot on the burner and I want to go talk to them before I make a decision. The other pot spilled all over the stove and I went with the first place.

There is no more degenerate kind of state than that in which the richest are supposed to be the best.
Cicero, The Republic
You have to play it by ear. by ankarbass (4.00 / 1) #7 Mon Apr 03, 2006 at 08:34:37 PM EST
But I wouldn't lose any sleep over whaty they're goint to think if you dumped them after the new offer comes in. They won't lose any sleep over your interests.

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I wouldn't lost sleep over it by lm (4.00 / 1) #11 Tue Apr 04, 2006 at 02:26:07 AM EST
But the world can be a small place and stories like that have a way of getting around. The more insular an industry is the easier it is the ``old boys network'' can blacklist someone over such incidents.

There is no more degenerate kind of state than that in which the richest are supposed to be the best.
Cicero, The Republic
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<AOL> by Weapon of Pack Destruction (4.00 / 1) #8 Mon Apr 03, 2006 at 10:32:03 PM EST
Last October, funding was slashed, and seven people were layed off from a team of 12.  I was told that my funding ran out sometime in April, but they'd work real hard to scrounge up money to carry me through to the end of the contract year.  That being August.

Last month, I had three job offers come in within a week of each other.  I used the first two to pressure the company I thought I wanted to work for, to get off the pot.  All the offers were for more money and more interesting work.  I was told that funding for my position was secured two days before I gave notice.  I managed to leave the place without giving my erstwhile management a fist-pumping two-handed Harvey Smith salute.

It's a tricky one by nebbish (4.00 / 1) #9 Tue Apr 04, 2006 at 12:11:12 AM EST
How easy was it to get offered the first, lesser job? If you turn it down and the better job falls through, maybe you'd be able to get another one just as good anyway.

It's political correctness gone mad!

Which One Vibrates Better? by CheeseburgerBrown (2.00 / 2) #10 Tue Apr 04, 2006 at 02:14:49 AM EST
Do what I did by Rogerborg (2.00 / 0) #12 Tue Apr 04, 2006 at 05:00:10 AM EST
No, wait... this is your diary.  I've got no business changing the subject.

Metus amatores matrum compescit, non clementia.
How would that change the subject? by calla (4.00 / 1) #13 Tue Apr 04, 2006 at 05:04:42 AM EST
I'm asking for advice.

What was your experience?

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No, no, I couldn't by Rogerborg (2.00 / 0) #14 Tue Apr 04, 2006 at 09:46:37 AM EST
Attention whoring is so bourgeoisie.

Metus amatores matrum compescit, non clementia.
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You are rarely an attention whore. by calla (4.00 / 1) #15 Tue Apr 04, 2006 at 09:56:15 AM EST
At least not by any definition I've found.

I like this definition: Attention Whore
A pervasive pattern of excessive emotionality and attention seeking, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following: uncomfortable in situations in which he or she is not the center of attention
2.interaction with others is often characterized by inappropriate sexually seductive or provocative behavior
3.displays rapidly shifting and shallow expression of emotions
4.consistently uses physical appearance to draw attention to self
5.has a style of speech that is excessively impressionistic and lacking in detail
6.shows self-dramatization, theatricality, and exaggerated expression of emotion suggestible, i.e., easily influenced by others or circumstances
8.considers relationships to be more intimate than they actually are.

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Which reminds me; we're not that close by Rogerborg (4.00 / 1) #16 Tue Apr 04, 2006 at 11:15:01 AM EST
A lot of people send me Furry porn.

Metus amatores matrum compescit, non clementia.
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But what about furry porn signage? by calla (2.00 / 0) #17 Tue Apr 04, 2006 at 02:39:35 PM EST
Eh, eh?

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