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Some Mothers by me0w (4.00 / 5) #5 Wed May 14, 2008 at 06:42:30 AM EST

I have discovered that not talking to my mother brings about peace and tranquility. So I don't talk to her and very rarely visit. It's a system that works.

"There's really only one sexually related thing I'm good at: Producing incredibly volumous amounts of spooge on a regular basis." - ni

Once a year by Phage (4.00 / 1) #9 Wed May 14, 2008 at 08:09:37 AM EST

Visit.
Once a year, card.

I get too wound up otherwise. Grief, you'd think I would have grown out of this by now.

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I was going to suggest this. by nightflameblue (4.00 / 2) #18 Wed May 14, 2008 at 10:26:40 AM EST

You've got some serious power in this relationship. ESPECIALLY with a grandchild involved. If your mother doesn't want to treat you or your family with respect, she doesn't need to see you or your family. It's unfortunate that there are times that's the only way to get family members to be reasonable, but if someone wants to turn family time into a game, it's up to you to use what power you have in that game.

Good luck. Family issues suck a lot. Especially when it's with your parents.

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The nuclear option by georgeha (4.00 / 1) #20 Wed May 14, 2008 at 10:49:24 AM EST

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: That seems to work with upset mothers. by nightflameblue (4.00 / 2) #21 Wed May 14, 2008 at 10:52:34 AM EST

At least for me, once mom gets upset, there's no calming her down without staying away from her for several days, possibly weeks. She just needs to stew it out on her own and eventually she'll let it go.

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the best system by StackyMcRacky (4.00 / 1) #24 Wed May 14, 2008 at 01:04:19 PM EST

was when we lived in different cities. When I'm not always around to be under the microscope, life is good.

I'd love to just not talk to her, but it's not so easy with the dude around. Plus, there's my father to think about.

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IAWTP by lb008d (2.00 / 0) #33 Wed May 14, 2008 at 02:58:35 PM EST

You're giving your mother power by interacting with her. Thus, explain why you're not going to interact with her for a set period of time and then do it.

It's brutal and to the point (and also easier said than done) but anything else isn't fair to yourself.

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